I'm so sorry louloubear100 for the awful pain you and your little girl are going through. You have unwillingly entered a new chapter in your life and are likely still numb and in shock. It's understandable you want to be strong for your daughter but be sure to take care of yourself as well. Here you'll find a nurturing environment and some helpful people with lots of good advice. I'm glad you joined many of us who hope to find the path to healing.

I lost my partner just 11 days ago. Like you I wanted him to live and stay with me. But his non-functioning liver made that possibility an impossibility. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. But I am glad that you continue to think about your daughter who really needs you right now. Glad you came to a place where others are facing a similar situation in their own lives and can help many of us get through these difficult times.

you are very brave to join here and write your feelings. I'm so sorry that you are going through this but here you'll know that everyone has actually been through what you're going through, and probably no one here would say "it will get better after the funeral." Instead, here I've learned the honest truth from others -- it actually gets more difficult before it gets better. My darling husband died on October 29 very suddenly from a heart attack -- he was only 51. The shock, anger, hurt, rage, sadness, loneliness, and the actual increased love I feel around me were all a big surprise to me. Be very good to yourself, and try to accept any help from anybody you trust. Writing in the journal here, which you can keep private or share, is also a helpful thing to do. You can look back and see where you've been emotionally as the weeks go by.

I am so sorry to read about your loss. I lost my husband of 37 years on Nov. 9, 2014.

For me,I was in a fog the first 2 months, feeling his presence around me but knowing he was not here physically. I would hug his pillow at night and cry.

I might suggest you visit with your nurse practitioner. I have never been on any medication for anything but she suggested and prescribed 50mg of Zoloft for me - to take the edge off is what she said. I believe it has helped. I don't cry as much and am able to get things done better.

Please allow yourself to mourn, to be angry, etc. Your blessing is that beautiful daughter you and your husband created. You will always have your husband with you through her.

Come back here often. We are all here for you.

I'm so sorry for your Husband's passing and we here understand. Whoever told you that it will be better after the funeral is really wrong. Just take what others say with a grain of salt unless they have experienced the same kind of loss as you and your Daughter have. I lost my wife over 2 years ago and some days the loss is just as raw as the first day. We all grieve differently but the main thing you need to do for yourself and your daughter is to take care of yourself and her. Get rest, eat well, things like that. Grief can be disabling, both physically and mentally. We are all here for you. Come here and talk often. I know the wonderful people here helped me quite a lot.

Take care, Jeff

When I lost my husband of almost 50 year, 2 years ago. I stood strong, got through the funeral, with the help of his valium. For the first year, I felt like I was in a fog. 2nd year. was no picnic either. you have to take care of yourself and your daughter. That's you priority right now. I am so sorry.... hugs, Sandee

Dearest Loulou . . .

You are in the midst of shock and grief. I understand your need to be strong for your daughter, this is a positive that will motivate you to move on. However, I wouldn't make any precipitous life altering decisions right now . . . you don't have to. (As in getting rid of his things.) I'm almost ten months in and still have 90 plus percent of my husband's things hanging around, exactly as he left them. We are all different, and some may feel a need to rid the memories of the lost one, and others, like me, might find them of comfort. Trust YOUR journey . . you will know when the time is right to confront each and every decision that will need to be made in the coming days and months ahead. Take it one day at a time. I'm so sorry for you and your daughter's loss. We will be here for you on DS, come share as often as you need to . . . we are a wonderful community of "strength" for each other. Hugs and prayers to you. xo, Dayna

Your feelings are common among those who suffer this loss. You don't have to do anything with his things or feel a certain way. Just love your daughter and let the emotions out. I'm sorry for your loss and hope being with others who have understanding of what you feel is a comfort for you. Sharon

Lou Lou,
I am so sorry for your loss.
We in this DS Group, who have lost your spouses, are one of the very best supports, you can have....ALWAYS.....we will support, encourage
And affirm your feelings. Feel free to vent anytime. Grief can be so overwhelming, you can move forward.
Hugs,
Sandra

Thank you to you all for your kind words, thoughts, hugs and encouragement. I keep thinking one day I will be with him again. it helps a bit to feel that. reading all your messages has made me cry. I try not to do that in front of my little girl. she doesn't like mummy crying. thank you x

I'm so sorry :( I know the words are not enough. I have made it to week 7 since my husband died. Some days I handle ok- most are like today where I just want to curl up and not feel. Just know you are not alone. That is what gets me through. Hugs---

Dearest LouLou
I am so very sorry for your great loss. There is nothing I can say to lessen your pain.All of us here are on this journey some are at the beginning others further on but we all began at the same point. I will pray for you and your child so that you put one foot in front of the other....one day at a time. God Bless you dear! Hugs to you and your little girl.

I agree after the funeral is much worse! Thats when everyone goes away and suddenly you have to figure out how to keep living. Hugs~~~

I am so sorry for your loss. Of course you feel lost. Life as you knew it has changed drastically and you didn't even ask for the change. Know that you are not alone. Know that everyone on this site understands; and that we are here for you day or night. What is important now is that you be kind and gentle with yourself. Take care of yourself and your daughter. In time life does get better, but it will be a roller coaster for a while. Move at your own speed. As much as possible, do things when you are ready to do them and not when someone else expects you to do them. When you are ready to sort through things and give them away, you will know. Until then, just take it one day at a time, baby steps. The priority now is you and your little girl. Come here as often as you need to, we'll walk with you. Sending you both hugs and wishing you both peace.

Thank you all for your kindness and thoughts. I,m so glad I found you all. I,m sorry for all your losses. We are all going through pain. Please stay in touch. You all are helping me. I don't feel so alone. One day at a time and hopefully we will all get stronger. I wasn't with him at the end. I just spie to him on the phone and he knew he was dying. That's what hurts the most. I wasn't there.