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D.Jay
D.Jay

It will be 20 weeks on Friday since Jennifer passed away. Sometimes I am surprised that I'm still alive.  I am starting to have some moments when feel that I will be okay. The pain is still gut wrenching  much of the time.... I'm trying to honor Jennifer by continuing with my life as I know she wants me to. She had so much strength, Beauty and courage that I do not want to let her down.... My heart is broken... I have not been on this site a lot but appreciate people sharing their stories as I know I am not alone going through this living hell... I never knew what pain was before this...

Rick51
Rick51
I hear you, and share a similar pain. I'm still not sure about surviving this.
nell79
nell79
I feel your pain. There are more days than not that I wonder if I’ll survive. This group has been a great help to me.
D.Jay
D.Jay
Thank you for sharing. I requested a hug from a female co-worker today and nearly burst into tears when we had our brief hug..... I am in the process of planning a celebration of Jennifer's life for her 51st birthday on April 27th.
foodcooppres
foodcooppres
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's still so soon--the pain is very fresh. I lost my husband in 2013, and I want to encourage you--there is still life ahead. I miss him and will never forget him, but God has given me the strength to go on. You can too. I found much comfort in a support group--find one near you at griefshare.org. Here's another comforting thought: http://bit.ly/2C7haEk. And I prayed for you tonight.
Silver55
Silver55
Live for those moments D.Jay, when you feel it will be okay. Sometimes, those moments were all I could focus on - but those moments get longer. My man was 55 when he left me in August. And like you, I have never in my life experienced this type of grief and pain and emptiness. Never expected to feel it either, thought I was tough. But I guess not as tough as I thought.