Widows & Widowers Support Group
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My Husband, (we were common-law) died 16 years ago after a Halloween party. He was very drunk and got angry for a silly reason. It made him so ridiculously angry we left and went home. Things escalated and he shot himself in our house, my world felt like it ended that night. I was so traumatized I could hardly function. This was a wonderful man who would be the most shocked of anyone that he had done this.
Recently his Mom asked me for his ring, which I wore for years on a chain around my neck. I took it off when I started dating the man who is in my life now. I do not want to part with it, needless to say she was not happy and the attacks have began.
His Mom was "somewhat" reasonable in her first letter to me, the second one not so much, but I have now received a letter from an aunt of his who I only met on a couple of occaisons accusing me of killing him!!!!!! She said to me "I would like to know what went on in your house that night, you were the only 2 there right? Tell the truth and set yourself free....I thought I was going to throw up when I read that.
What should I do? Maybe contact the Police? Ignore her? I am devastated by this.
Recently his Mom asked me for his ring, which I wore for years on a chain around my neck. I took it off when I started dating the man who is in my life now. I do not want to part with it, needless to say she was not happy and the attacks have began.
His Mom was "somewhat" reasonable in her first letter to me, the second one not so much, but I have now received a letter from an aunt of his who I only met on a couple of occaisons accusing me of killing him!!!!!! She said to me "I would like to know what went on in your house that night, you were the only 2 there right? Tell the truth and set yourself free....I thought I was going to throw up when I read that.
What should I do? Maybe contact the Police? Ignore her? I am devastated by this.
Just my thoughts,
Big Bear Hugs
Ralph
I agree with Ralph that these people need serious help. I am just so sorry that you had to hear anything so reprehensible.
Sernding many HUGS. hANG IN THERE. tHEY HAVE THE PROBLEM. nOT YOU.
DIANE
Maggie
Maggie, a grown son who he never knew now has a relationship with his Grandma and she thinks he should have it. I met him and he is a very nice guy, that however does not mean that I need to give him something that holds sentimental value to me, also he has never even "seen" the ring, it shouldn't hold meaning for him.
Having said that, I may have considered it if I had got to know the Son and developed a relationship. Remember he NEVER knew his Dad.
If the son himself asks than deal with that than - there are other things such as a photo he may want of him -
As you said - this ring is between you and him no other.
I pray your life is now happier and you find joy in your new relationship. Love Ann
Just saying
Brenda
Wishing you better days ahead.........hugs
Like everyone else said - don't even open the letters - they will just make you upset. Anyone who would act this way is not going to come to their senses and write anything you want to hear. Perhaps you should even put - "send back to sender" so they know you will no longer read anything from them. I would be tempted to tell aunt -you are apparently out of you mind and not in touch with reality there is no point in my reading or responding to you in anyway.
Like someone else said - save the letter and change your phone or cell phone number. If they send another - I would consider bringing it to police and ask for their advice.
They are off the wall and uncaring. No one else deserves the ring - legally, morally or emotionally. Take a deep breath and relax on the couch with the remoe.