It will not be easy my husband passed in July and I put up tree last night and cried but we must try to focus on the good memories and know they are not in pain or suffering. I miss my husband so much and am trying to get thru these holidays and the rest of the year best I can as we all are. My husband spoiled me on Christmas every year and I will miss that and sharing our cards we loved that part. I will pray for all of us. GOD be with you.

You get through the day however you can. Moment by moment is the key. I would foremost, do what you can and not what others say you should do. If you want to be with people, you can, but you don't have to. You're very early in your loss. I was 6 months when Christmas hit the year my husband passed. I went to my daughter's for dinner, but left soon after. After the rest of the family left I returned for a quiet cup of coffee with my adult children. Follow your heart and know you aren't alone. Sharon

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my soul-mate David on the 14th of November from a Massive Heart Attack - no warnings. He'd just seen his doctor three days before and he was doing great other than minor back pain. It has literally turned my world upside down. It took me two weeks before I could go back to our home and sleep there. I still leave on my days' off and I feel guilty because I'm leaving our children (cats) alone and I know they have no clue why mommy isn't spending more time with them and why strangers are coming in to feed them and all. Thanksgiving was hell with being with his family but it was good at the same time. Although, everyone laughing and joking around and myself as well I felt guilty and had to go outside and cry. Christmas Eve is going to be hard as well - being there with them and this would have been the first year he wouldn't have to work since he'd just retired in the end of July. Some days I can barely pull myself together and get my arse out of bed. This group has been great an friends I've met on FB who've been through this and our dearest friends helping me out as well. I would suggest finding a counselor and a support group in your area. I know it's not for everyone but the counselor helped me out earlier this week and I'm going to my first meeting Monday morning. You'll be in my thoughts and truly sorry for your loss. This is a club I didn't think I'd be in for at least another 10 to 20 years. The best advice I can give you is keep busy, keep people around you, take it one moment at a time!

Thank you. I am also sorry for your losses.

I do believe, she would want you to be ok, and wake up christmas morning, and no necessarily be all happy pappy(right now so soon after your loss),but she would want you to remember the love, the christmas's you both had with one another, and she is there with you in spirit. I am also having some of the same dread, for me the few days leading up the holiday were worse for me, than the actual day. Not everyone is the same, just be kind to yourself, if you want to cry, then cry, we just do whatever we can to push forward, and create a new normal, amungst all the very not normal things happening around us. big hugs and god bless, carla

I wish I could give you an answer...my husband has been gone 8.5 months,and I still cry gut wrenching sobs at least once/day...I guess we just go on because we really have no other choice in the matter.

I'm sorry Wendy.

My husband spoiled me too! He was a gentle being, Loved to joke around. Loved to barbeque, and invented barbeque sauces . He would love to listen to sports radio or his favorite music of Pink Floyd. Today I played his Pink Floyd. celebrating him and the time we shared together. Wanted the whole world to take a moment to just celebrate him, And I played the music as loud as I could!. It will be 8 weeks since he died tomorrow Sunday. Maybe 2 of the people who attended his funeral have called to see how I'm doing. No one else has. I'm doing fine and hold in my heart that I was given the privilege to share a life with one of the finest!. So hard to accept he's gone.

Garry, I can't offer anything more than what has already been said, but please know that I will keep you in my prayers.

Wishing you strength and peace . . .

I am getting anxious as well as Christmas gets closer. I went to a Christmas party for family and friends this weekend that we do annually to get together and much of my conversations were about Amy. It was tough talking about her and her not being there for the first time in twenty years.
This was her special holiday and she loved Christmas. She was also a big Star Wars fan and I am sad I won't be seeing her excitement about the movie coming out next week and bugging me about when we will see it.
I am treating Christmas as any other day this year. We had no children so I won't need to fill any obligations except getting through the day. I will keep the true meaning of the holiday in mind as she would want me to but that will be personal and alone.
Best wishes to you and everyone here for this holiday season.
~Pete

I am so sorry for your loss Garry. I understand how hard it is especially during the holidays. This will be the 4th Christmas without my wife of 40 years, my soul mate. I won't go into our story, it's on my open profile, but loosing someone quickly be it 6 months in our case or in one night is devastating. I was in a blur for a year and the second year was worse because of coming out of the fog.

The holidays are always the hardest for me because Donna loved to decorate and cook and do all the things families do this time of year. My oldest son, his wife, and my grandson live with me and it's only been this year i really helped to decorate the tree. It still brings tears.

Just know she will always be with you, living inside you always.

Take care of yourself and I wish for you a peaceful Holidays.

Jeff

I am sorry for your loss Garry, I lost my husband aug 19 and my dad Aug 18 this year. We are all here for you, It won't be easy and I usually journal my feelings and really helps me. Your friends and family to be with you during this time will get you through. Hugs, Donna

Garry

Just take it a step at a time. I'm also having a hard issue with this since it's only been a month today that I lost my soul-mate. I've avoided calling my mother-in-law and going over to see her since Thanksgiving because I still fill guilty that I didn't save her son. I should have done this, that or the other thing. I know it's stupid but just the way I've felt. Going over tomorrow and it's going to be hard as hell going to the family home and all our memories there. But, just be with family and friends when you need it. Don't be alone it's worse that way. She wouldn't want you alone! Wishing you the best and here if you need to talk Hugz