Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I am new at this, but felt I needed to reach out somewhere. My husband and my dearest friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly 3 months ago. I continue to do my job, but feel like I just go through motions. My son came to live with me, for a while, he had to work on the weekend, and it was my first all alone in the house. I functioned and kept busy, but felt things were so quiet and unfulfilled without my husband. No one to share anything with. I feel my life is now about passing time. I've lost the point of doing anything. People get tired of grief quickly it seems. But it doesn't seem to get tired of me. So, I'm trying this.
I am so, so sorry about your sudden loss. At 3 months you are no doubt, just going through the motions iof living. That's ok!
Take one little step at a time, be kind to yourself. If your emotions get out control, join us. We will all affirm what you are experiencing.
We are all her to support you and share your grief,
Loads of love and hugs for you dear friend,
Sandra
one baby step at a time. I'm 22 months into my journey as a widow, and 24 years now for my lost baby boy... The grieving doesn't stop, but you will learn to carry on. I too felt it was pointless... there's times I still do, despite my 12 and 14 y.o. kids keeping me hopping. I did find doing kind things for myself helped - coffee with a friend, manicures, massages, indulging in my favourite dessert... For some I know, volunteering locally helped put purpose back in their lives again. But take care of yourself first and foremost.
Big hugs!
Jac.
Russ