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How I honor Special Days

missingt
missingt
Just want to share about our new ritual.On first Anniversary of my Husband's Death my son said to me - Mom lets go to have dinner in Dad's favorite restaurant and order all what he liked.This is what we did-had his favorite dinner,wine,chocolate cake.Later at home we listened to his favorite music and watched video we had recorded during family gatherings!!To see my Husband,to hear his voice and to eat his favorite dinner helped to lessen the pain and we cried but somehow it was easier!!
Tomorrow on Father's Day I am going to do the same-it will be hard but i want to honor him in this new way!!
I hope may message may help.Hugs to ALL! Peace! Ann
deleted_user
deleted_user
It does ANN!!

What a wonderful way to honor him. and I bet you coujd just see him with every bite. I cook Greg's favorite meal on our anniversary every year now (both of them), and have been to "our" restaurant with the kids also. I could see him there right with us as we talked and laughed. Leaving a little piec of that legacy with them also.

It DOES help!!1

HUGS and I hope you cfan enjoy that meal tomorrow too!!

Diane
NewRoadsForMe
NewRoadsForMe
What a wonderful way to celebrate your love for your husband. My husband loved coconut in whatever form. I never had been much of a fan of coconut, but since he died, I seem to want coconut cake a lot. Kind of like some of him is still with me! Congratulations on making this a meaningful time for you and your son!
deleted_user
deleted_user
What a wonderful way to honor your dear husband. Also, what incredible resolve on your part to pull it off. I think if i tried to do something like that i would have a nervous breakdown, i can't even go to the same restaurants Berna and i frequented. I'm telling you all, woman are so much stronger than us guys, we have the muscle but you have the heart, i could never do what you are doing. Congratulations sweetie, you truly honor your husband's memory. God Bless, Sal.
deleted_user
deleted_user
" I'm telling you all, woman are so much stronger than us guys, we have the muscle but you have the heart, i could never do what you are doing." -----Sal said WELL & succinctly!

For me at least. THANKS Sal.

AND I applaud you Ann. Your fortitude is phenomenal.

((HUGS)))

Genuinely,
BEAR
lovedaisies
lovedaisies
This is a wonderful tribute. We have done similar things for birthday's and will have something more like you described when we reach year 2. We had friends and family over at year 1 and it didn't go quite like I had pictured----OK, but want next time to be different.
Thanks for sharing,
Sallie
ciegee
ciegee
Wonderful way to celebrate his life....

We to have started honoring my husband by watching the videos on these special days and even on regular days just because we want to see or hear his voice... I think it is part of the healing to talk about them. Do the things they liked and remember the wonderful life we shared with these amazing people who we loved and still love so dearly. We all have so much sadness in our heart it is in the doing in their memory that slowly starts us to heal.
thanks for sharing..
hugs,
Cie
Nicker07
Nicker07
Wow we did the same thing. Went to his favorite resturant and enjoyed like he would have. Than we blew up balloons, wrote things on them, and took them out and let them go. I wanted it to be in his HONOR not a memorial sadness of him.

I think the word "Honoring him" was a big help in my keeping it not so much of a loss. We have done this now for last year.
This past year I did not celebrate his birthday as my family always made our special BIRTH day our day since those days are no longer a part of a life - we do other special honor days though.