So true. I’ve been pretty good in front of other people. Our daughter is struggling, but her husband has been a rock. I’m pretty sure I’m still in shock and denial. You go on one day at a time. That’s what I’m trying to do. Tears are never far away. It’s been over a month for me. I keep expecting her to come home, not entirely unlike my dog (I think he thinks she just left for a bit).

Or, I think I hear her calling my name, just out of hearing. And find she’s not there. Or I wake in the night, and there’s nobody there with me. I’m not sure how to move on either, I’m just taking it a day at a time.

I agree. I hit rock bottom a few days ago. Literally. I was at the end of the rope. I cant imagine surviving 60 days as I'm only 2 weeks in. Be proud that you've made it 60 days. You are indeed doing it . You are making it. I cry all day every day. I welcome only crying once a day. Know that I understand you. It's terrible. I too cant sleep. I wake up and want to roll over and curl up against him. He was everything to me. I feel lost without him. I'm managing one hour at a time . Are you going to grief counseling ?

Make friends on here...I am one year in and it's still hard...I have been encouraged by others on this site...Everyone is in the same boat ....and understand what your going thru...Let us be your oars....so your boat won't sink....It's hard to grasp for you...It's a process none of us want...I still reach over for my husband....Sorry ...Hugs....

My Deepest Sympathy to all. I too cried a river every day. My husband died during Thanksgiving week. 2006. My sister died one month later to the day. It was the hardest time of my life losing both of them. I later dreamed of them together laughing and joking like old times. I joined a bereavement group where I met new friends . They were supportive and comforting.
I missed him terribly. I went to the cemetery often. There was a ladies gym nearby. I decided to join and I found that while I was exercising, I wasn't crying . I gradually reached acceptance. Eventually I started to take part in new activities. it all helped. I'll always treasure the forty years we had and the memories we made. Please know this is probably the worse you will feel but it will get better. Everyone here cares and are here for you. Though it doesn't seem like it now, Brighter days are ahead. Hugs, Dolores

So sorry to hear of your loss. It has been 3 months for me after 43 wonderful years and things are finally starting to get better. I still have those moments when I am triggered by something and lose myself. But they are getting farther apart so I guess I am finally accepting that my Brenda is gone. Though she is gone I still talk to her, write her letters, and communicate here and on several other groups. That along with my letters I write her help me get my feelings out and helps my soul be at peace. Still working on what I plan to do in the coming years but that totally lost feeling has somewhat passed at least for now. I look to God and listen for his plan for me. It will get better, you just have to take one day at a time and don't give yourself any time table. Take your time, grieve your way, and listen.

Try taking one day at a time, if you did one thing for yourself today, bravo to you. Unless it has happened to you, I don't think people quite get the empty, lonely feeling we have and it's horrible at times. People think well just get over it, but we plain just can't, but we can learn to cope. Never let anyone tell you how YOU feel. We cry, get angry, say "why me". Be kind to yourself, if you spend the day in your pj's, you do and don't apologize for it. This site is filled with broken hearts but knowing there are a lot of people who don't judge, or tell you to just snap out of it (oh if we only could) has been a blessing for me. Sorry for your loss sounds like empty words right now but people on this site mean it wholeheartedly. Peace and love, Jan.

My heart goes out to you. It has been a year. At first somehow I thought he might come back. I know that sounds crazy. Hang in there. I don't know how, but there comes a time when it doesn't feel so raw. I miss him and our life so much. Healing is a journey. Be good to yourself. Hugs.

It's so hard Angel. I love loveloons comment about the pj's all day. Even when I'd work I'd come home and throw on fleece pj pants and one of my husband's t-shirts and watch netflix or read these grief sites or any other lazy thing (while my piles of things to do lay waiting). I just could not get stuff done. I was such a wreck (and still am off and on as it's only been 5 months for me). Actually I still kind of do that (but I get a bit more accomplished lol). Big hugs to you.

roblep dont hold it in cherish what his voice sonded like and smille