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Horrible dream last night

Nicker07
Nicker07
If anyone remembers my husbands two older sons contested the will,
the results are: in WA state from the date of your marriage on the things you accumulated, bought etc are the widows, and 1/2 of things before you are yours. So the boys are getting just about what i figured they would have gotten once I got through some grief. OH my lawyer had me put things out that I might want to get rid of so there are numerous items of "stuff" that was not their fathers before me. But like he said Greed - they want it all. They are to sign this TEDRA agreement to take this stuff, go away and leave me alone.

My dream was they came to pick up the stuff - and started taking everything even shampoo I just bought. The weird thing was my husband was there and he did not stop them, I pleaded with him to stop them and he was just off to the side watching and would not do a thing.
It was so upsetting. I think I am just upset its taking so long for them to sign this and get on their way outta mine.

It was amazing when my lawyer said to allow them to go through my home, make a list of family memorphbilia that they wanted - they picked things that were never ever before me, in fact, things that were my daughters and granddaughters in the storage unit. I had the choice to say yeah or neah, Funny thing: one insisted this army cot was memories of when they were children (hes 38 now) it looks brand new - it was my daughters ex husbands who in the Air force & left it behind never used. Has his name and USAF on it, he was a cheaper on her so daughter said give it to them, we wish were mice could see his face when he sees his name...ha ha
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh dear....... all I can say is yes......... And you know....neither of us raised our kids that way. It was our second marriage, too. I already had it in my mind that they should get the things of Bob's that were special to them, but for them to demand these things after all the financial help that Bob and I together, gave them. Honestly, I was ready to just jump in my car with my memories of Bob and I and say take it all and drive off. I don't hear from either of his kids anymore, except they use my address so they can dodge bills they owe. It's been one heck of a ride; my life; but Being Bobby's girl was the dance of my life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband and i raised his grandaughter from the age of 2, to 18. The year she turned 18, she walked off, stickin us with a car we had cosigned , with a burnt out transmission. It was the exact Month we were told he was sick. HE was sick for 14 months after that, before he passed. She never phoned or visited him. THEN after he passed , she had on her facebook she wished heaven had a phone, so she could talk to her grandpa again. of course i wrote, "Really cause he had one for 14 months right next to his head, and you never called" Now she is having people ask me if she can have certain pics of him. I dug deep in my soul, and he loved her, so i said yeah, and had copies made. Hoping some day when lookin at them she grows a concience, and is just a tad bit sorry. We raised her as our daughter. Never dreamt she could do as she did. Thank God My boys are just like their daddy. Right by my side, cause the devil seems to always stick his ugly head in somewhere.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Geez, my heart goes out to everyone who has to not only lose their loves but also those who they thought were members of their families. Rob's brothers were no where to be found during his battle with brain cancer and managed to visit only after they were told he was in hospice. The one said he didn't realize what terminal meant. His wife is a nurse? They also have parents in a nursing home that they only visit upon request from Rob's Sister. She was there for Rob and is now solely responsible for his parents. I visit and stay close to her and Rob's parents. I often say to my daughter I hope the brothers have regret. I told them as much myself when they finally visited during Rob's last week. They wanted to visit then so they wouldn't have regrets. I told them I hope they had regrets, they should have regrets. My daughter who has had to listen so often to my anger and venting about their insensitivity reminds me that I am projecting my morales onto these thoughtless people. I finally believe she is correct in this. They have no remorse, they aren't in touch with any depth of emotions within themselves and guilt is something they don't feel. It is odd to me but there are heartless and uncaring people who convince themselves otherwise. It is hard to turn away and give up but that's what we have to do. They don't have what it takes to really love or care. That's just how it is. Too bad we have to be the ones to deal with more emotional crap while going through this acute grief. Sorry for all. Hug, Donna
Nicker07
Nicker07
I had to listen to their horrible things they said about me, things they accused me of, had no idea in the 15 yrs together they felt this way. I was able to provide documents to disprove their B.S. thats when they decided to accept the stuff I offered. Again its just stuff relationships are over. Roger would be very unhappy but I want nothing to do with people like this ever. BUT amazes me how many people all around tell me they have heard these stories or been through them.

Roger and his X wife should be ashamed in how they raised them, I too believe their guilt is reason for this, guilt for not being a part of his life we rarely saw them. Had nothing to do with me, just too busy in lives to take time.

Its easier to be mad at us than at themselves but Karma will come around I believe that.