Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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WMadison 01/09/2017

I lost my husband of 32 years on Jan 1, 2017. He had many health problems, CHF, diabetes, kidney failure and he lived 14 years longer than they had expected him to. We had the most wonderful marriage abd even though we knew the day would come, it did not make it easier. I am trying to cope, but I miss him so much. The worst thing is loneliness. My youngest son, age 24, lives with me and he has not left me alone, but it isn't the same. I hope I can learn from y'all on how to get through this, this is the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. He ws 58, I am 55. Thank you.

regwin 01/10/2017

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so new. Try to take it very slow. One baby step at a time. Take all the time you need. It is a life changing experience. You will receive much love and support here. Everyone here knows what you are going through and has been through a loss. Your son sounds like a wonderful person. I'm glad to know he is there for you. I lost my husband ten years ago and I never forget how it was. I went to a bereavement group after about two months. I found many wonderful friends there who were a source of comfort . With their help and friendship, in time, I was able to accept and move forward. May Peace and strength be with you. Hugs, Dolores

kdg2016 01/10/2017

I am sorry for your loss. Me and my husband were married for 32 years, he passed just a few days before that anniversary (8/18/16) I am also 55 and he was 56, he had COPD. I just started today with this support group and already gotten great comments that are helping me. Please hang in there and express your feelings. So far people in this group really care. Take care and glad your son is with you. My son is 26 and stays with me part-time. God bless and take care of your family soak in the replies in this support group

staygolden3 01/10/2017

I'm truly sorry for your loss....Your story sounds a lot like mine...similar path with the same health issues and timeline....our ages, even your child.....plus a long wonderful marriage.
Please know that even though this the hardest thing you will ever have to do, you will get through it, it just takes time. The memories and love that you shared will always be there to comfort you even at your lowest points. I know it's not the same but it's what's left and you will realize that your love and that connection will never end. With that in mind, that love, connection and his protection will see you through someday back into the light.
His body may have worn out but feel comfort that he got to spend the rest of his life with you. He will always be with you along this new journey, talk to him and look for his signs.
I'm glad that you found this forum as it has been a life saver for many of us. Read, write and learn.....you are not alone and we all understand.
Warm hugs to you and may you find strength and courage among us and within yourself.
Darcie

Dave61 01/10/2017

So sorry for your loss, and so recent. I lost my wife of 40 years 11 months ago on Valentine's Day. She had ALS and we had 4 years together after diagnosis. She was 61 and I was 60 when she passed. I thought knowing it was coming would make it easier, boy was I wrong on that. I went for long walks daily to force myself out of the house, attended grief counseling sessions at Hospice, and became more involved with the church. I feel I can now feel the fog starting to lift. Take your time, take it slow, and take care of yourself. As long as you remember him he is with you in your heart. Best wishes as you start your journey and may you find strength to support you along the way. Hugs. Dave

raininseattle 01/10/2017

No good-byes are ever easy and less heart-breaking.

Please give this article some thought. It may sound off-topic, but is analogous in many ways.
https://www.dailystrength.org/journals/how-to-cope-with-sudden-illness-or-disability

Ty2015 01/10/2017

I am so Sorry for your loss, for I to have been there, this is a great group of people that you can lean and depend on as much as possible, it will get easier everyday is different, one day at a time is so true, sometimes up sometimes down but with God all things are possible....I'm in month 4 and I must say it has definitely been a challenge....stay prayed up continue to ask for strength, understanding and peace about it all....do it all in,your time
Peace to you
Ty

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