I am so sorry for your loss! My husband had about the same kind of injury only from a motorcycle accident. He lived for 30 hours but never came to. We would have celebrated our 38th. There is no way around the pain I understand how you feel and I hurt with you. It has been 2 years and 6 months. I will tell you the pain never goes away but it will become bearable. There is a book that helped me very much "Widow to Widow"! There are some very good books on grief that really comforts and lets you know the things you are feeling are expected and that you are not going crazy because that's how I felt sometimes. I was 56 and he was 59 we met when I was 14 and married at 18. I know the ache you speak of sometimes it actually hurts to breath. I know it doesn't help right now but it will ease up one day and you will be able to remember the happy times without so much pain! There are may wonderful people here who are going through the same pain and it is a very comforting site. Hugs!!!

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband. It is so very recent, crying all the time seems not unusual. I can tell you that I understand your pain and how much you miss him. You can get good support here and the access is easy. However, have you considered a group support as well? I believe it is helpful to understand the grieving process, at least it was for me. It takes time to heal but we will someday be able to smile again. I'm still in process myself as it has been a little over eight months. We'll get there, and I'm very glad you found this group.

I am so very sorry to learn of the loss of your cherished husband. It is especially difficult when you were together 24/7. Many couples never have that closeness and deep attachment. I know how much you must miss him.

Welcome to this support group, Marie. Please know that there are many of us in this group that really do care about helping you in any way that we possibly can.

Hugs to you.

I am so sorry for your loss and want to reassure you that you have come to the right place. My husband died totally unexpectedly from a heart attack on June 1st and I am sure that I would not have made it this far without all the love and support of everyone here on ds. We will walk with you every step of the way. It is so hard and so painful and the physical pain of grief is overwhelming. I am thinking of you and praying for you and your dear husband. Keep in touch. Love Margaret

I am so sorry for your loss. We all support each other here because we've all felt the pain you are in now. If you have any questions, please ask. This is a good group of people, and I know without them I wouldn't have made it. My husband of 30 years died of a sudden heart attack November 2007; he was only 55 and it was totally unexpected. I got counseling and that helped me a lot. And I joined here at DS and my friends here stuck by me when I thought I had no one. I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to find yourself here, but also want to say 'welcome' to the group. Love and Hugs, Martha

I am very sorry for your loss. And understand the feelings you are going through right now. We were married 31 years. I met my husband when I was 14. We married when I was 21. So, for the first time in my life I am living totally solo without an appendage. At least that's what it feels like anyway. A total void and a total loss.

Compared to when he first passed May 22, the pain has become more bearable, but it is still there. Forcing it to go away is the worse thing to do. Trust me, I know. Don't take advice, but try to follow your instinct and conscience, if you are able to feel it right now.

We are here. I am attempting a group bereavement group on the 14, even though I don't want to go. I also attend private counseling and would not know what to do without it. Two avenues of choice for you, when and if you are ready.

Debbie

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on July 25th. He was retired so we also were together 24/7.I am not a really emotional person but now I find myself crying moast of the time. Even when he was in the hospital for all those weeks I never really cried. I kept on hoping for a recovery as the MDs promised. THis site has helped me quite a bit. The loneliness in the house is the worst part for me. I can come to this site and always find compassion. Take care.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful husband 9 months ago, and although the circumstances were different, I can relate to what you are going through. It is hard to lose your best friend and soul mate. It does get better a little at a time, but it is a long, hard journey. This is a great group of people here on this site, and we all understand your pain. It has helped me so much just to know that I am not alone, that there are others who are going through the same thing. You will get a lot of support here. I hope today will be just a little bit easier for you. laurabp

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Marie. It's been 14 months for me, but although the raw grief has abated, I miss my Joe so much. We owned a business together, and worked together every day much like you and your husband. Please treat yourself like your best friend, be gentle on yourself, try to sleep and eat as best as you can, and HOLD ON. Minute to minute. Keep coming here to express what you're feeling - you'll find nothing but support. Hugs, Marsha

Right now your in a place of pain and loss. and as uncomfortable as that place is it's the place your meant to be. The tears need to be released and the acceptance of how awful you feel is understood here.
I think death is no easier to understand than life is.Someone wiser than I must be coordinating things. The thing I do know is it's part of a bigger plan this experience here on earth. Accept it and try to find pieces of peace anywhere you can. I'm here of you need to write Sharon

Oh Dear!! I am so sorry!! You have a lot of support here!! Many here are going through the same thing you are. My husband died in an accident 11 months ago and it is still so fresh in my mind!! One step in front of the other!! Take it slow and seek out help!! You will get through this!! Contact me any time!! Charlie Lynn

I TOO WANTED TO BE W/ CINDY @ FIRST. I'M SORRY THAT YOU HAD TO COME TO THIS SUPPORT GROUP FOR THIS REASON, BUT I'M GLAD YOU'RE HERE! I SEE YOU'VE BEEN ON DS FOR A WHILE, SO YOU KNOW HOW GREAT IT IS. COME HERE & WE'LL HELP YOU AS MUCH AS WE CAN, TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS GRIEF.

HOPE THIS HELPS, RIP.

Marie,
Reading what you wrote and hearing what kind of pain you are in brings it all back to me. My husband died on new years day, and there are times when it feels like yesterday, but even though the pain and the longing are still there, it is more bearable now. I found the best thing for me was to talk about it, over and over again if you have to, find people that will listen to you and not judge, and who really care about you. I still talk about it a lot, and when I do the pain comes through, but it really does make it better somehow. I think it makes me feel less alone when I share it with people that care about me. Take heart Marie, we know how you feel, we really do. I wish there was a way around the pain, but you have to go through it. My husband was 55, so am I. I never thought I would go through something like this so young. He didn't have an accident, he had pancreatic cancer and died less than 2 months after his diagnosis. It's Hell no matter what happened, accident or illness, quick or slow.. Even if the situation is different, the pain is the same. Be kind to youself, let yourself grieve as much as you need to. I sometimes remember what happened and get so angry that I want to punch a wall or throw something that will shatter into a million pieces since that is how I feel sometimes; shattered. This really is a good supportive place. Write here as often and as much as you want. We'll listen.

I share the same pain and hurt. I found my husband when I got home from th hospital with our daughter July 24th. I had just talked to him on the phone maybe an hour or so before. It was a total shock. I am still in disbelieve. We had had our anniversary in Feb. 35yrs is such a short time together.
If you need to talk I'm here.

Hi,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Much like AliceRen, I had just talked to Rich on the phone, discussing our weekend plans. An hour and a half later, I received the phone call telling me he had passed.
We had been together for 40 years (married 36) and we were constant companions. We did everything together!
Nearly 7 months later, I still cry my heart out each day and long to be with him. It is my goal in life because I do believe we will one day reunite.
No one knows or understands why God takes away "beautiful love", but one day we will know the answers.
My love to you and write me any time! Mo