Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Sorry I haven't been here in a long time to help support each and everyone of you..
I woke up one morning about 6 weeks ago and couldn't see .. I had a bleed in my what we call my good eye during the night , Sure scared me.. I knew my Daughter was at work so I just got up and got myself to the livingroom and sat and waited till it was time for her to be off work and call her.. I had the tv on so knew what time different programs were on which gave me the time.. My daughter came right away called the eye doctor who saw me the next morning and set me off to the specialist who said it would clear it's self up but I was no longer ever the rest of my life sleep laying down I'd have to sleep sitting up.. No washing floors, no vacuuming, no bending, no reading books.. sure doesn't leave much left to do in life which I've found boring.. He said when the sight comes back I could us my computer as you aren't straining your eyes to read like you do concentrating on a page in a book. So I've slept in a chair I don't own a foot stool so my legs were down and man are they swollen legs and feet.. can barely walk because of it.. So I purchased a recliner on line it came last week.. I'm only 4ft 9 in tall and it was so high I couldn't get in it.. My Daughter and I went to the store told them my problem and I bought a lift chair or as my Son in law calls it an ejection chair..lol it is also a recliner got it today so hoping to sleep tonight.. Also had to purchase a walker the doctor thinks it's a good idea as my balance seems to be getting worse.. Gosh getting old is fun not..
I'm a year and half into this widowhood thing and it has hit me hard this month again for some reason.. so working through that as well..
So that's it all I've been up to..
Enjoying family when they have time to come over.. All Grandchildren back in school and enjoying it and my wee first Great-Grandson started all day Junior Kindergarten this year.. man that made me feel old.. He is loving it and was really ready to learn he was getting very bored...
Hope everyone is keeping well..
your friend in this new part of our lives
Lois
I woke up one morning about 6 weeks ago and couldn't see .. I had a bleed in my what we call my good eye during the night , Sure scared me.. I knew my Daughter was at work so I just got up and got myself to the livingroom and sat and waited till it was time for her to be off work and call her.. I had the tv on so knew what time different programs were on which gave me the time.. My daughter came right away called the eye doctor who saw me the next morning and set me off to the specialist who said it would clear it's self up but I was no longer ever the rest of my life sleep laying down I'd have to sleep sitting up.. No washing floors, no vacuuming, no bending, no reading books.. sure doesn't leave much left to do in life which I've found boring.. He said when the sight comes back I could us my computer as you aren't straining your eyes to read like you do concentrating on a page in a book. So I've slept in a chair I don't own a foot stool so my legs were down and man are they swollen legs and feet.. can barely walk because of it.. So I purchased a recliner on line it came last week.. I'm only 4ft 9 in tall and it was so high I couldn't get in it.. My Daughter and I went to the store told them my problem and I bought a lift chair or as my Son in law calls it an ejection chair..lol it is also a recliner got it today so hoping to sleep tonight.. Also had to purchase a walker the doctor thinks it's a good idea as my balance seems to be getting worse.. Gosh getting old is fun not..
I'm a year and half into this widowhood thing and it has hit me hard this month again for some reason.. so working through that as well..
So that's it all I've been up to..
Enjoying family when they have time to come over.. All Grandchildren back in school and enjoying it and my wee first Great-Grandson started all day Junior Kindergarten this year.. man that made me feel old.. He is loving it and was really ready to learn he was getting very bored...
Hope everyone is keeping well..
your friend in this new part of our lives
Lois
PLEASE DON'T THINK THAT I'M "SHOUTING" AT YOU, BUT USING ALL CAPS MAKES IT EASIER FOR ME TO READ...AND WITH YOUR EYE PROBLEM, THIS MAY BE EASIER FOR YOU, TOO??
I'M SORRY TO READ ABOUT YOUR SCARY INCIDENT WITH THE 'EYE-BLEED'...THAT MUST HAVE BEEN VERY UPSETTING. YOUR NEW LIFT CHAIR IS A GREAT IDEA FOR ANYONE.
YOU SAID THAT YOU DIDN'T HAVE A FOOTSTOOL? YOU CAN CREATE ONE BY TURNING A SMALL WASTE-BASKET UPSIDE DOWN (OR EVEN A PILE OF BOOKS?) AND PUTTING A LITTLE PILLOW OR THICK TOWELS ON TOP. OF COURSE, THAT'S JUST MY SUGGESTION, IN CASE OF EMERGENCY...NOT AN "INTERIOR DECORATING" DESIGN!!!
USING A WALKER HAS BEEN PART OF MY LIFE FOR THE PAST 10 YEARS OR MORE, SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE. IT'S BETTER TO KEEP YOUR BALANCE, RATHER THAN FALL. I ALSO HAVE A MANUAL WHEELCHAIR AND A SCOOTER, TOO. SO WHATEVER ASSISTIVE DEVICES YOUR DOCTOR RECOMMENDS, JUST ACCEPT THAT ADVICE AND BE THANKFUL THAT WE NOW HAVE SO MANY THINGS TO MAKE LIFE EASIER, OKAY?!
KEEP THE FAITH THAT YOU'RE DOING AS WELL AS POSSIBLE, LOIS, AND COME TO OUR DS GROUP FOR THE WONDERFUL SUPPORT GIVEN TO EACH OTHER EVERYDAY. I'D BE SO LOST WITHOUT MY DEAR FRIENDS HERE. I'M 14 MONTHS INTO WIDOWHOOD, AND THIS MONTH HAS BEEN HARD FOR ME, TOO.
TAKE GOOD CARE, HANG IN THERE, AND VISIT DS W/W MORE OFTEN...THE "ANGELS" HERE HAVE BEEN BLESSINGS TO ME.
HUGS OF FRIENDSHIP,
NANCY
THANK YOU FOR THE SUGGESTIONS OF A FOOTSTOOL NEVER GAVE THAT A THOUGHT SOME TIMES I WONDER WHERE MY IMAGINATION HAS GONE.. MY BIRTHDAY IS NEXT MONTH WILL BE 59 SO HAVE DECIDED THAT I DON'T CARE HOW I GET AROUND AS LONG AS I CAN STILL GET AROUND.. I DO MISS DRIVING AND BEING ABLE TO GO AND COME AS I PLEASE.. AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOU KIND WORDS AND SUGGESTIONS
LOIS
Take care.