It has been a long time since I have visited this group.  10 years ago this group was my life saver.  Today on another site there was a question asking what words of encouragement brought you comfort.  My reply was that in reality there are no words, nothing anyone would say or do brought real comfort.  Grief is something you must go through.  Tired of burdening my family with the grief in my loss I found this site.  The anonymity here and the pure fact that everyone here is going through the same thing and really understands brought me comfort.  This group is an amazing tool in helping you get through your grief, you never get over your loss, even these ten years my thoughts still remember the grief and my heart still feels the void but it has been ten years of changes, some joyful, most challenging and some empowering.  

We are now in troubled times.  This pandemic has introduced much to handle.   For those recently widowed it brings a new form of being alone.  We stay sequestered in our home perhaps alone in our loss for the first time.  No outside visitors as all are concerned for their health and for the health of you should they be a carrier and not know it.  Use this site to purge your feelings, your fears, your need for company.

I can tell you it does get easier especially if you want it to.  Do not grapple with the what if's should have's and could have's, they are not reality.  Deal with the facts which are something you cannot change but you can formulate your future decisions on.  You will find then greif eases and as it does point your thoughts in a postive direction.  Do not allow yourself to wallow in grief, it will kill you.  There is life after the loss of your spouse, you only have this life, live it.  Your loved one would want you to....God Bless...