I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife. I found a bereavement group that helped me. Hope Hospice also has a group that meets once a week. I made new friends there. They were a wonderful comfort and support. With their help, my goal was to gain strength and be like them. I also tried volunteering for a while. Take one day at a time. Go slowly. Try to take the best care of yourself that you can as far as eating and drink a lot of water. I'm glad you have the dog for company. I'm sorry for your daughter. It's hard for her, I'm sure. Visit here often. Everyone here has had a loss and are here for you. Grief takes a while to get through, It's different for everyone., but is better with time.
May strength and peace be with you. Hugs, Dolores

I found this sight several months after I lost my husband on 9/30/15. I needed to know others had been able to survive the hell I was going through. You will survive but it takes time to be ok. You will experience every emotion and need to allow the grief to take its course. If you read some posts here you will know that things change and then change again. Come here to vent and share, we all understand like no one else does. I wish you peace. Marybeth

Yes things will get better. We all grieve differently at at our own pace. I lost my Brenda of 43 years 3 months ago and I am finally starting to come out of the fog. We not only have to deal with the loss but also all the details. I can now finally work on the details. Those trigger moments still happen but I believe that is just God's way of helping us grieve. We were lucky enough to accept a new kitten into the home shortly before Brenda passed and he has been great company for me when nobody else is here. There's a story behind that but I think that was all in God's plan! It will get better and you will exit the fog just keep on and let God help you and listen for his plan for you.

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife. My loss is almost 6 months ago. If you would have told me I would survive this long I would never have believed it. I am still dealing with the emotional roller coaster that this grief journey brings you on, I do know that you cant try to ignore the grief. I will get its due. You just learn that the waves of pain wont always catch you off guard. It will get easier to handle in time . Come here for support and to know you are not alone,Angela

Pawn, I've been on this wretched journey for 2+ months. This is a new and unfamiliar emotional state we're in. I've been helped more than words can convey by the support of those here who have been thrust into the same turmoil.
I'm glad that you've found your to us and paradoxically sorry that you needed to.
I posted this song as a thank you to our members and hope that after you view it you feel a sense of community. As Angela so rightly said, you are not alone.
With you in spirit, Ellen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFZmT-LRMBM

Thanks all. I found myself crying on my drive into work this morning - song on the radio. I had to take a few minutes to pull myself together before heading into the office.

Hi Pawn,

First, I am so sorry for the loss and what you are going through. Today is 7 months to the day when my dear Lisa passed, 18 yrs of marriage, she was only 45 yrs old. It does get easier but I still cry alot. Evenings are tough. I too took great comfort with our dog. Sadly, I just got home a couple hrs ago, had to have her put down. She was 13 and a half so had a good long life, but got home Monday and it was obvious something bad had happened.

It just brought back all the emotions from loosing my wife and best friend. Be strong, it does get easier, but I still struggle alot. Life seems unfair at times, I feel I have been cheated out of the next "chapter" Just know we all understand and have had/still have the same feelings and emotions.

Jamie

Hi Pawn

Its been a year since my wife passed and I remember when I was at your stage. It is like you are living with her without her being there. I think it is a part of grief. After a year I am finally out of the fog that grief created. I still miss my wife everyday but I am able to deal with it better each day.Unfortunately there is no time frame for grief. Everybody deals with it differently so the time frame is different.

Take care of yourself. One thing I did learn from grief is that life moves on. Either with us living it or not living it. Hang in there.
Ron

Hello Pawn

It has been 3 and a half years since I lost my husband. I miss him every day. In the early minutes, hours,days and months I thought I would die (sometimes wished I would) Its a fog and a pain that is indescribable. Personally I thought that when the calendar said it has been six months, a year and so on I would be feeling remarkably better. Not exactly... Our grief is very personal and our journey is different. I have to say that the pain has dulled and I can now speak my husband's name with out instant tears. Grief has a way of moving us along with out our knowledge. Some times with out our consent... Things will change and some of those changes will be rough and some will help you cope. Our minds have a way of protecting us until we are ready for the next step. Hang in there by taking care of yourself and not stuffing away your feelings. Listen to your needs. Coming here often has helped me and I encourage you to do the same. Hugs to you
Lisa

So sorry for your loss. I’m 3 months on this journey and it does get easier! I have good and bad days, thankfully more good! Life goes on whether we want it to or not. You will experience a wide range of emotions and it’s very unpredictable what will trigger it. I journal daily to release feelings and prayer helps. Unfortunately it takes time to come to terms with our loss. Feeling weepy myself today. I trust these wonderful people here, everyone is at different stages of grief. There advice and stories give me hope for happiness someday. Take care of yourself and take it day by day.

I can only tell you not to worry about how you feel. If it is right for you to meet some one else you will. Try not to worry about it. And I think a favorite song and other thing will always bring tears and memories. It is a hard fight we have been given to fight but thank goodness we have this web site to help