Scott,
I am so very sorry and cannot imagine just how hard this has to be for you. I am also having a rough day--- being the first holiday since my husband passed . He died on January 30th but our marriage had been deteriorating for last 12 of 17 years. Despite that, I did still love him and did not want to see him with his health issues or to have to suffer.

With you having 2 healthy , loving relationships-- this has to be incredibly hard. I do remember you saying before though that as hard and painful it was when you lost Cindy-- you were so lucky to have been blessed with a second chance for both you and Wendy helping each other through such a hard time and finding each other... and love again. There is a song I have been replaying and in it is a line of a heart that has broken you know has been loved. Know that you have found that twice. While it sucks immensely having to go through this again... know you were (and I am sure will always be loved)

I hope and pray that maybe you will be able to spend at least part of the day with her younger daughter or a close friend. Not sure if all is as it is here in the states? All are in lockdown and all but in exile. I am here alone while my family is not very far away... but because of distancing, I cannot go to see them. Is funny how even though Dave (my late husband) and I did have strains on our marriage because of health issues and his shutting down (both physically and emotionally) I can still miss him and his presence so much.

I cannot do anything but listen though I wish I could do more. I do send prayers, love and hugs and hope that it may help just a bit to know that you ( as well as any of us spending the day all alone) may know that someone else does care.

KIm

I am so sorry for your loss. It takes courage to continue on my second husband died 4 years ago and i have been through a mountain of heartbreak but as well self discovery. It takes time to find yourself again and that is where the courage begins. Baby steps. Everyday brings a new challenge but that is life.

I lost my husband on Feb 23rd and a lot of days are hard days. My 3 children are all young teenagers and although with a farm and a business I am always around people I feel terribly lonely. I hope you make it through the holiday okay. I know the first few weeks for me were an emotional rollercoaster. Not sure I have actually come out of that yet.

Be kind to yourself today. I am sorry it has all piled up on you like this. Take it one day or even one moment at a time. I hope you find some comfort in the wonderful memories you made together. And I hope you take some comfort in knowing you brought Wendy a second chance at life and love and happiness.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am returning to this site after 5 too short years of love with my 2nd husband. I was widowed the first time December 19,2012. My second husband died December 13,2019. I was surprised and sad to see I am not alone with a 2nd loss of spouse.
After my first husband passed, I grieved, of course, but I felt an inner strength and a resiliency to build a new life. Now, I feel indifferent to life and just wish God would call me home. I dont mind the shelter in place either. I dont want to be around people (a huge change from my normal personality). Does anyone relate to this?

Janmarie323 I relate! It is so peaceful. Don't have to put on a phoney face and just relax and do what I want! ((Hugs))

Hi, I am sick of people telling me they are sorry. So I do not want to say that to you. What I will say is that as sucky as this all is, we are not alone. It feels that way I think, at least for me. However, I am choosing to not accept that right now. I can only imagine how you are feeling because I think each person feels their own kind of loss and pain. I just lost my husband a couple of days ago and I feel like total crap. I kinda am bouncing around emotionally, not any really good ones. But, maybe it's just that the shock has not worn off yet. I still think that maybe in the long run I will be able to remember the fun my husband and best friend had and focus on that. Then maybe over time, I am hoping that I will be able to get happy again. I hope that you are having some relief, even if it is only for moments. Take care.

sorry to say it does suck and you will have good days and bad days I know this from when my first wife pasted away I also know what your saying about I'm sorry but what I hate more is if you need anything because that doesnt mean anything they say it to look good .I am also in a bad place but remember its okay to smile and laugh if you see or hear something funny