Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It's been 5 months today since I lost the love of my life. I didn't think today would be this hard. Is every month going to get harder?
I was watching our youngest grandchild (3 years) and he found the train track we use at Christmas and even though we have explained that his Poppy is not coming back he's too young to understand. He said when Poppy comes home we'll play with the train because Poppy's my best friend.
I have such a hole in my heart and I want him back.
I was watching our youngest grandchild (3 years) and he found the train track we use at Christmas and even though we have explained that his Poppy is not coming back he's too young to understand. He said when Poppy comes home we'll play with the train because Poppy's my best friend.
I have such a hole in my heart and I want him back.
It does get better. I know that is hard to believe at five months and maybe you're tired of hearing that time helps, but for me it has. Also, what has helped me is all the crisis that I have survived and even triumphed over.
I have found that I don't stress when things happen to me because the worst possible thing has already happened to me and I've survived. I've had leaky pipes, busted radiator on the interstate while alone and 50 miles from home, several jobs done at the house, new ductwork and insulation put in the attic, more car repairs, and a massive clean up of everything in my house and two garages and yard sale this past summer.
Each one of these things have built my confidence in being alone and have made me stronger. Maybe I've gotten off topic a little, but I think fear was part of what was going on with me the first year as well as grief. I had no idea how I would survive alone, but somehow I did have.
Nessie from KY