I'm so sorry that you are here. Know that we don't understand your specific sadness but we all know what it is like to be broken, day after day. Welcome to the group.

Wishing you strength and peace. Hugs from Dolores

Apparently the pain lessons with time. I wouldn't know as I'm only at 3.5 weeks. Still feel like dying. I hope you do better.

Thanks everyone

Sorry life has brought you here. I'm at 8 weeks. I think the pain will always be there. You can expect the pain to not be so intense all the time, you will have "good" days. But also expect to have days when the grief will just take over and it will be difficult just to get up and shower. You have to do what's best for you and you're the only one who knows what that is right now. Sometimes you may need to be around people for a distraction and sometimes you'll need to be alone and just cry in the bathroom (been there). Right now you take care of you and come here and post or private message as often as you need to. Being a widow SUCKS, but you're not alone.

It does. Right now though there isnt anything anyone says thats going to help ease that pain. I wrote letters to my girl which helped clarify feelings. Its hard, there is no comparison to any other experience in life in my opinion. Life will creep its way back in eventually. All you can do at this early stage is breathe
Love to you. Pete

It takes a long while for the pain to go away and life will never be the same, but you will become engaged in life again and you will find joy in other things. I know that right now you can't imagine that. It took me years to come to that point, but it began with having days that were bearable. All you can do at this point is put one foot in front of the other. You are right. It is so hard. I am praying for you right now and asking God to strengthen you and comfort you. I will continue to do that through this holiday season. That is how I finally lived through it.

It’s been almost a month since I lost my fiancé. He was my soulmate. I’m 28 weeks pregnant with our first child. I’m atill grieving, but I’m thankful for her because I don’t think I would still be here knowing he’s not here anymore. I’m still in so much pain though. I am wondering the same, when will this pain end.

I'm new to this site as well. I just lost my wife who was my high school sweetheart. She was only 33 and so am I. We have two little boys. One is 6 and the other is 1. I'm now a single father of two. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever experienced in life. Sometimes I just want to run far far away from it all. Unfortunately I can't because those boys need me. So I continue to stay as strong as possible. One day at a time. I will read these post daily in search of inspiration. Knowing I'm not the only one going through this specific type of loss is somewhat comforting knowing they can relate specifically. I lost my wife, my best friend, the mother of my kids and lover all in one day. And it was unexpected. Life is hard. But I gotta keep pushing. Mainly for her because I know that's what she'd want me to do. I hope each day gets better for you and everyone here.

You can't see in now, but there is a good life out there for you. One way or another You'll find it. It's waiting behind a million tears. Even though you have stopped, the world just keeps turning. When you get back on your world will be a new place. With what you are about to learn.........your second life will be good.

I'm new here, too. My 49 year-old husband passed away 12 days ago after a 20-day battle with pancreatic cancer. I'm pretty sure I'm still in shock. I've cried and cried and cried, and today I'm doing a little better since I'm back at work surrounded by wonderful, compassionate colleagues.

I've already started seeing a grief counselor and attended a support group last night. I'm too extroverted to be alone right now, and it's sometimes unbearable to me in our home without him. My Mom is staying with me for awhile, but it's not the same and my sadness hurts to my bones when I'm there. I know that would break his heart, because we really love our home...but it feels like a prison of loneliness right now. I really hope that changes. Will it?