For the past 5 years (same time Dan diagnosed with ca), an adult son w/sole custody came to live with us w/2 sons, now 11 and 7. Suffered trauma while with mom & her boyfried. She abandoned them while bf sent to jail for abuse. It's been a long, hard ride, esp. w/Dan's surgeries, chemo, etc. during this time. Grandpa Dan was a steady source of comfort to the best of his ability. The oldest feels the loss more profoundly than his brother and is continuing counseling. They both are on the mend and are doing much better overall. I can't imagine anyone else in a similar situation, but if there are any w/w that can offer advice or possibly have young children at home, I would be grateful to hear how this loss has affected the kids and what can I do to help them while I am helping myself. Sometimes, it is difficult to even get up in the mornings to send them off to school. My son, their dad, spends just about every minute with them when he gets home from work. He is grieving, too. Every fiber in my being is stretched to the max.