Widows & Widowers Support Group

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Goodbye 2016, I'm not excited to see you go.

Sophia2002
Sophia2002

My husband has been gone for almost 7 weeks.  We were just on a trip, we had just spent a beautiful day together, we had just watched our daughter sing in the choir performance, the night before I had just told him how much I loved him and how good we are in this very moment. I had given him a anniversary card in June for our 14th talking about all the adventures to come. Our first of three just graduating high school. But it all ended. An accident while working and you never came home. It plastered all over the media and social media. Why couldn't it have been quiet? Why do people have to be so cruel?  It's so sad, but I feel like I just need to be quietly sad. After all people loses loved ones everyday. I'm nothing special, it's nothing new. It's just a part of life. But we married when I was 21, I don't know anything else. I don't know how to do this stuff alone. 

sarah26
sarah26
sorry to hear about your loss,my boyfriend died on 28 November 2016,and the night before we had spent the night together talking about our future,how we were going to move in together and how we were everything we ever wanted for each other,I still cry everyday thinking about it and him,I ask God why but all you have to do is trust him because he knows best,pray for him to give you strength as am still struggling ,God be with you!
onebrokenheart
onebrokenheart
Dear Sophia, it may be just a part of life but you are special and this is new to you.
My husband transitioned 2/5/2013 from cancer. The journey since that day has been long and very emotional. The advice I give is to get as much rest as you can, make sure to eat at least one good meal every day and drink plenty of water. Take each day one at a time, sometimes you will have to go from minute to minute, hour to hour.
Yes you have so much to learn. Everyday for a while you will be faced with all the things he used to do but try not to stress too much, you will gradually find ways to cope.
Come here to DS with your thoughts, questions, good or bad we are all here for each other. This place has been very important to my getting through the worst and we are all here for you too.
MrsP
MrsP
My sincere condolences to you on your loss. I lost my husband in November too and it has been an emotional rollercoaster ride ever since. Try to go with your feelings, cry, take time out, remember the happy times, grieve for his loss. I'm told time heals our pain but I guess we have to be patient. Much love xx
Unique
Unique
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband suddenly in October. We had a great evening went to bed and he never woke up. You are special and please express your saddness and don't feel it needs to be done quietly. Those who love you will understand. I cry and pray every day. I've been meditating too which helps. Peace and hugs to you.
MrsBrielle
MrsBrielle
It is tough. My husband and I had been together for 12 years. We had been attached at the hip since our senior year of high school and he ment everything on this world to me. The day of his accident, we were taking the next step in our lives by looking at houses to buy with our realtor. Our family are very quite people as well and to have family reach out that have not cared for years coming out of the wood works is a struggle within its self. I'm just thankful for this group and to talk to people who know EXACTLY what each other are going through.
Britta
Britta
I don't know how to do this stuff alone either. But we will figure it out :-( Have faith. It will get better. Sending you a hug. Jeanne
Jdhayes
Jdhayes
It has been 9 weeks for me, keep visiting this site. I am so glad that I found this. It helps knowing that I am not going through this alone. It does hurt that the world keeps going and I want to stay in the past, but I know that I can't. I am up to good moments to bad moments.....yesterday, all day was bad. Take care and ((hugs))