Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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gailarmstrong 07/23/2015

Finally had a decent day today after weeks of hell. Whilst I'm grateful to be feeling a bit better, the thing that terrifies me is, that I know from experience that this will turn full circle again and the gut-wrenching agony will return. I'm such a pessimist these days. I can't see the good in anything anymore. Much love to all of you who are experiencing this awful journey alongside me. XX

sharonalmodoval 07/23/2015

I too am in this hell. I have ups and downs. I try to remember that he would want me to forge ahead. I am not sure how to do this at times but I try to take baby steps.

Silee 07/23/2015

It is indeed a painful journey, especially the initial stages. I am 9mts into my journey. As you go along you will find ways to cope and accept your journey.
Be patient with yourself. Accept the help from those with genuine care and concern. You can do it Gail, turn to your inner self for that strength.
We are all here when you need us.
Hugs to you..

dschwartz 07/23/2015

I know exactly what you are saying Gail. It's so sad and unfortunate, but just when you are starting to feel up, you know it's gonna go down again. Sigh. No easy answers, other than holding on tight for the down ride and enjoying the moments of reprieve on the upside. It would be so easy to just give up . . yet we have much to do with our lives in future and the time we are given. No giving up!! We will see this through. Together, we are strong . . . and we are still standing. Hang in there. Hugs, D

letmehelpyou 07/23/2015

Enjoy the day and try not to think about tomorrow. It does eventually improve but it takes a lot of time and patience with the process and yourself.

Hugs,
Val

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