My wife died unexpectedly this past February. We had 21 years together and two sons. She was 52. Be kind to yourself and just focus on today. If need be, focus on the next three hours. Surround yourself with your family and friends and the best advice I got was if someone offered to cook, help with cleaning, take the boys somewhere, say yes and let them. I still miss her everyday, I’m sure I always will but you will get to a point of becoming more “functional”.

I’m sorry for your loss. My husband had a heart attack while driving home from work. It’s is hard and you will need to take it day by day and sometimes minute by minute. I miss him everyday and we had our share of issues too. He was 53.

I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died two weeks ago we were together for 36 years. All I can tell you is take your time with dealing with your loss. You will have good days and bad days. Hang in there

Thanks all. I’m trying to take a day at a time. But time moves so slowly.

I’m feeling incomplete and my heartache so much.

My energy is really low now and easily irritable.

It is difficult. I was 38 when my husband of 20 years died suddenly in a work accident. We had six children so I know something of what you are going through. I remember the all night ritual with the pictures too. You are right. It is a nightmare. Have you applied for Social Security for the kids yet? That at least took some of the financial burden from me. I tell you what, there will be ups and downs. Some days I thought I was losing my mind. (I think I actually did for a time.) I had several faithful friends who cared for me and prayed me through those first difficult years. It has been many years since I lost Rick. My kids are grown and I am fine. I survived and so will you. I am going to pray for you and your family. I am going to ask God to comfort you and strengthen you, and guide you just as He did for me.

Hi cupolatte,

Thanks for the prayers. I’m also 38 this year. How did you cope since you lost Rick? I mean managing the children and yourself. Must be a handful handling six children on your own. How old were they when that happened?

I’m aware the journey ahead is long and uncertain. My priority would be the kids, their emotions and wellbeing. My kids are 3+ and they don’t seem too affected at the moment and they seemed to understand when I told them that daddy is not coming back.

I’m not sure if I should print pictures of our family outings and put them around the house to remind them of their dad or I should just let their memories fuzz.

For me, it’s hard to step out and reintegrate into my social life. Finding it hard to be happy and really don’t want to burden my friends with my emotions.

I am so sorry for your loss.
My husband passed away on 6/10/18 at the young age of 46. It was a heart attack.
Now, I'm heartbroken. I had known him since I was 14 years old and we had been married for 22 years.
He was the love of my left, my best friend, and the most amazing man I have ever known.

The pain and devastation that comes with losing a spouse is something I wish for no one. I am lost and lonely all the time.

We have two beautiful children, that are now young adults and have their own lives. The last thing I want to do is to be a burden to them.

I just feel like the pain will never go away. I recently just found this support group, so this is my first post. I hope this will be a place of comfort and I will keep you all in my prayers.

My husband died unexpectedly 20 months ago. He was 41 and I 36. I was left with three teenagers. I suck at taking care of myself, but I got the SS thing going, read enough of the grief books given to me to know what to look for with the kids, and took them to a children’s grief group. I learned that childrendo not grieve like we do and that they grieve in small random bursts. Do the best you can, understand you were not given a choice and you are strong enough even when you don’t feel like it. I’m so sorry you have to do this too.

so sorry Y’all. i’m so sorry for all of us. to lose a spouse is without a doubt the hardest thing i’ve ever dealt with. and i’m sure you feel the same. I keep talking positive to myself and sometimes i do ok. anybody that knows me probly thinks i’m doing great. i’m so strong. but the hurt, the pain the loss the memories. they never leave me. I want to go hide somewhere and do nothing!! and for the first few months that is all i did. i then had to get myself up and force myself to go back to work. to try to find some sense of normalcy. but it is not that easy. I’m still working on it and it’s been 2 years. I feel dysfunctional. i feel like i need to establish a new “normal” but don’t know what that is. I pray for us all. strength and love. to you all.

Keep strong! You never really get over such a loss but you do learn to cope. All the best❤️

Thanks LeeAnne.

You are right, I don’t think I ever will get over it. Hit me right in the face.

I’m rather short fuse after his passing. Having panick attack and lack of energy.

Thanks all for sharing your journey. I’m sorry to hear about all your lose too.

It’s like trying to develop dual personality. Showing our ‘ok’ front while I am crumbling inside.

I also thought about leaving the country to have some time to cry out loud, bury my head in the pillow and just not do anything.