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It has been nine months since my husband passed away. The weeks following his death, I wanted to go also. The numbness, the crying, the anger, the guilt, being hospitalized with a mini heart attack the day after Thanksgiving, (so they said), having an angiogram done and all was well and many other stages of grieving, I feel I am moving forward. During his illness from Lung Cancer, I had lost approximately 20 pounds and at the Doctor's office last week, I have gained 3 pounds. Is that a sign?
handg
handg
"Is that a sign ? " A sign that you are eating better as you are slowly healing ? or a sign that you are gaining weight from not eating properly? I`m not understanding that part of your post and want to make sure. I certainly hope that it is a sign that you are on your way to continue your journey in a healthier and happier way and that you are handling grieve better. XOXO
LostAndFeelingAlone
LostAndFeelingAlone
I'm glad to hear you are moving forward. Weight gained or lost is a sign, but unless it is a dramatic change, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Weight gain can be a negative sign, or it could be positive.

I gained 20-25 lbs while my husband was on chemo. I was attending the house, but sitting around a lot too. Within the 1st month after his passing, I lost 15 lbs. Then I slowly gained about 10 lbs. So you know, weight fluctuates.

I detect some skepticism about your husband's death. I too, have lost faith in hospitals. Some doctors still believe they have the right to play god.

It sounds like you are progressing well, in your grieving process. Keep up the good work.