Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Going through simple things like his old magazines he kept is hard I'm not sure what is harder seeing things, boxing them up or the hurt i see in my kids faces as I do you can't win which ever way you go and that makes me so angry at him some days for not going in for a check up or telling me he was having chest pains that anger is probably the hardest thing of all
Why, why, why???
There are some things we will NEVER understand
My husband was having back pain, he had two office visits but didn't follow up with what was recommended. So two years later when pancreatic cancer was diagnosed it had spread to his liver & both lungs. Frustration....
I can't change what he would not do, I must learn from mistakes & not repeat them.
Difficult, yes, regrets, yes
I am left here alone in retirement, both children out of state before he took sick.
It isn't our fault, now we must concentrate on coping with our grief.
A local hospital or church may sponsor support groups. It's beneficial to talk with others in our same predicament.
It's baby steps..
Some days good, some days discouraging...
The upheavals level out after awhile.
You need to be there for your children
Give yourself the time YOU need, we all grieve in our own way.
Try to find something positive in each day
Life isn't fair
Tomorrow holds new possibilities.
Blessings
jdp