Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I am sorry that a lot of my comments to some of your postings envolve me Trying to get many of you started in a social group around ur home town but I see the pains you have and I share and my social group has helped me a lot with the constant sadness and loneliness that we all share.
I mention my social group because it has been a blessing to me and I want you to have these expiriences of making new friends and sharing social events with people that are not suffering like we are. It feels nice to have friends and enjoy my weekends. I think many of you would benefit.
Just know I care for you all and I very much I just want to share my happiness Because we all share sadness that is why we joined.
I know I could not do this when I first lost my wife and I don't expect many of you too, But when you are ready and you will know when that is, Go on the web and search for a local social group in your area and try it out. It was hard for me to make that first meet up but I did and am glad.
If any of you have Ideas of social events or outings that might bring some joy in life comment please because I may not have tried it and I love to experience new things.
I mention my social group because it has been a blessing to me and I want you to have these expiriences of making new friends and sharing social events with people that are not suffering like we are. It feels nice to have friends and enjoy my weekends. I think many of you would benefit.
Just know I care for you all and I very much I just want to share my happiness Because we all share sadness that is why we joined.
I know I could not do this when I first lost my wife and I don't expect many of you too, But when you are ready and you will know when that is, Go on the web and search for a local social group in your area and try it out. It was hard for me to make that first meet up but I did and am glad.
If any of you have Ideas of social events or outings that might bring some joy in life comment please because I may not have tried it and I love to experience new things.
I am glad you took the first step and found a new social connection. You sound better, more positive since the time you had joined that group.
I am doing the same, reaching out, because nobody can do it for me.
The loss often changes the address book, many previous relationships does not survive the change.
It is up to the survivor to do this restorative work, and you are doing it.
Blessing
Everybody does it! *wink*
You really hit the nail on the head wthis ~
"I know I could not do this when I first lost my wife and I don't expect many of you too, But when you are ready and you will know when that is,"
It could be some aren't ready, can't get out of bed, simply not interested or can't find the car keys, the thought of work involved in showering is too daunting, afraid of blowing snot bubbles in public, etc. Grief just makes people sick ~
I was like that early out ~
So really & truly it has nothing to do w/you ~ *smile*
What I do find valuable was your interactions w/others while still being newly widowed ~
Your last post was very insightful as far as giving others a heads up on what could happen to prepare themself if they are ever caught in an uncomfortable situation & to be careful w/making assumptions about another person ~
We all know grief causes irritability, snap judgements, purdy much low level to highly charged anti-social behavior ~
These are the things everyone needs to think about before exposing themself socially too soon ... not just for one's self but for others as well ~
We are all connected; we all have an impact on one another big or small. We might be approached by a scuzbag or someone who is simply a social butterfly trying to make more friends or who is recovering from (?) or learning how to socialize or new in town, etc. Who knows for sure till directly asking about their intentions or through blatant unmistakable body language ~
Please continue to post about your adventures, how it went, how you handled your emotions & situations, etc ~
They would be most appreciated ~
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I am currently unsupervised. I know, it freaks me out too! But the possibilities are endless ~ *me*
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