I understand where you are coming from! The 16 of this month Marked the 2 Month anniversary of my husband's death. Sometimes, it feels Luke I haven't seen my husband in YEARS! Sometimes, i feel like I can still feel his warmth on me, like its been only seconds since he's left my side!

I'm so very sorry for your Loss! I hope you find some comfort here as I have! Everyone has been great so far! Extremely helpful!

Especially the first 6 months, my sense of time was really altered. It seemed like an eternity since he had left, and at the same time just yesterday. Keep on taking care of yourself. Hugs

5 months for me ... Feb 6 2016. I miss him so much till it hurts. And the same here seems like yesterday but then seems like forever sence I seen him. All we can do is hang in there.
Xxxxxx

Hi Gmama - welcome to our group - sorry you had to join! Friday's suck for so many reasons...for me & John, it was that they were one of our favorite days to look forward to in the work week - when we could defuse and be together for the next couple of days - Friday evenings for us were typically very relaxed and chill.
Alone now with them takes on a whole new coloration - somewhere between dark grey, brown and black! ick. Ah, but then it passes into Sat (the weekend) woo hoo!!! that's another 2 days in paradise. There's no winning here! but at some point you begin to see the bittersweet irony to it and just embrace the love that was there and the love that remains (I guess)

I hate sundays. Sunday was NASCAR day in our house. i was never a fan but grew to love the sport through my husbands passion for it. Since he passed this spring ive watched 1 race then preceded to have a meltdown at the end because the one driver we both hated won. needless to say i have not watched another. It will be 4 months this 22nd that frank passed and instead of crying in my bed im forcing myself to go out with friends that night- paint nite im hoping is a good distraction for a shitty day.

My husband died on a Friday and that day was a constant reminder of the last time we were together. I am sorry for your loss, but hope being here brings you some comfort. Sharon

Thanks everyone, as sad as it sounds- knowing I'm not the only one to feel this way let me know I'm still normal.......

Gmama, I'm struggling as well, although not on any particular day. And I wonder why everyone else isn't. Reality is probably different but I no longer hear about them talking about my partner, it seems like I'm the only one. And sometimes my mind wanders and thinks what is wrong with me? why can I not get over this feeling? And sometimes I think what is wrong with everyone else? You know that joke where the wife called her husband to tell him the news reported a car running in the wrong direction on the freeway, and the husband responded by saying there were hundreds of them? I feel like that husband sometimes!

I must add that over time when I'm feeling that way, I snap out of it quickly - by telling myself "That's why I'm special!"

I think most of us have that day of the week that is a bit harder than the rest. For me it is Sundays, even though he died on a Tuesday. Last Sunday I was in a condo with 10 family members out of town for a reunion - could not be more different than my normal routine - and woke up feeling anxious and sad. As my mom sat with me while I cried, she and reminded me it was Sunday. It was weird. I hadn't recognized that. It's like my mind has some programmed schedule for Sundays.

I think it is Alan Woltfelt that says we don't have "bad" days, we have "necessary" days. I like that because it validates those days as part of the process and not something we should try to eliminate or feel badly about.

Gmama - I had a horrible time with Fridays. I left work on a Friday looking forward to the weekend with my husband, but when I got home I found him dead. Fridays became the saddest day of the week for me. It was all made worse by co-workets and friends so happy on Fridays, which is absolutely normal. Fortunately my work location changed and that helped so much. The pain does become less intense.