I'm so very sorry for the loss of your love. The beginning of this awful experience is so isolating. It will help to come here and read and share. For me it helped to see that others had survived what I felt I could not endure. It feels impossible that you will live your life without them and yet somehow we do go on. For now just try to get through each day and let tomorrow take care of itself. I did a lot of reading about grief and the afterlife. I needed to know what my husband was experiencing to be able to begin to let go. I still feel he is with me often but I know that I have to live my life in a new way. This is the most difficult thing we all have to do and it helps to have the understanding you will find here. God Bless. Marybeth

Thank you, Marybeth.
I find myself having to fight with somebody everyday over something. I tried to do what I thought was right and start putting things in my own name. Turns out that so far, apparently, this was exactly the wrong thing to do. I have been hit with extra fees from just about every quarter. Feels like having insult added to injury.
Very distressing to deal with along with grief.

And exhausting as well. :(

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband of 33 years Feb 11, 2017. It was been difficult to say the least.. I noticed that you said changing things into your name was a mistake. Do you mind sharing why. Just wondering if I have done things wrong? Thanks Judy-Anne

Thinking of you, know that feeling......

It wasnt a mistake to do it, but seemed like everytime, I got hit with a jump in costs, a new deposit demand, raised rates, etc.. This is not a good thing at all when you are just newly widowed and you bank accounts may be frozen temporarily, your husband may have been the major (or only) breadwinner, and your income may be either tied-up, diminished, or non-existant to start with. To have extra fees coming at you as a result of doing what you are supposed to do, put accounts into your own name, now that your spouse is deceased, just seems like such a slap in the face on top of losing your spouse. Then, comes the stress of having to try to fight this to try to maintain whatever funds you might have to hold you together until your income resumes... Holding on phone line, voice mail hell, press 3, 4, 5, 6, or 7 now, no operators are available, your estimated wait time is 26 minutes, and "I will have to transfer you to a supervisor..."

It's just an atrocious way to treat people.
Anybody, but especially people in acute grief.

So very sorry for your loss and pain. I got a letter from the power company about six weeks after I lost my husband wanting me to change the name on our power bill before the next billing cycle. I remember thinking that clearly the person who made this rule has never lost their spouse. Had similar problems with being put on hold and having to repeat my story over and over. No one should have to deal with such incompetency while they are grieving.

Agreed.