Yes right now. Just got home from work and having a mini breakdown. Asking God why him? He was such a nice, kind, decent man. I know this feeling will pass. But for now it is hard.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Going to walk on treadmill, that usually helps.
Marilyn

Oh yes I do all the time! My husband died July 8, 2012 and I had to move in with my 90 year old Mom. I'm taking care of her. So I'm feeling sorry for myself a lot! Of course we are going to feel sorry for ourselves. It's human nature. We have had our loved ones ripped from our lives so naturally we would feel this way. Don't be so hard on yourself. Feel the feelings, experience the grief, it will get better. And No Guilt don't add to your stress. You have enough. Hugs to you Violet! Miki/CO

I am having one of those days. My world stopped one year ago today. My dreams, my future, my life died with my husband. Having a very hard day.

Violet honey, you have just lost the person you loved more than anything... your world is upside down and the pain is unbearable...you are going through "Grief"....you are absolutely allowed to feel sorry for yourself!!! I know I do. We lost so much more than people realize. You should pull up the post " Unique and devastating loss"...it's on page 3. It is the best explanation of what we are going through. I have printed it and had family members read it so they would understand.

Hang in there, they tell me that we will get through this and as long as you keep coming here, you are among people who understand and care.
Sending lots of love and prayers.
Blessings,
Sharon

At first I felt sorry for myself, and the I started to think of how lucky I was to have the 30 great years of life with my wife, What if we never met, what if one of us walked away after an arguement. Some people in their life never get to have what I had. Jim

Monday I just also had a crying time...

Its been 2 yrs 6 months but something triggered I am tired of the way things are going I want more peace and less loneliness type feeling sorry.....

I just know it does seem hard at times....no matter how long its been...it does get easier because you accept there is no other choice...but darn it and drats anyway this is not how it was supposed to be....growing very old together was the plan...HUGS TO ALLLLLL

Violet, first a huge hug! I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. We are entitled to pity parties now and then. Your wounds are still so fresh. Our worlds have been twisted upside down and inside out. Please be gentle on yourself.

We all grieve differently, but I think it's the same for all of us...just when you think you've reached a new stage or level of acceptance, bam you feel like you're at the beginning again. I'm just a few days shy of 16 months. January was horrid. I cried everyday and had lots of "what am I going to do", and "why me" moments. I'm still crying several times a week but I also feel like I'm moving into a new stage...my tears are more missing the family we were and not so much the pity party I had for more than a month.

Hold on. We are all here for you. DS has been a lifeline for me.
Prayers,
Diane

Feeling sorry for yourself is definately allowed. You have paid the price for the right to indulge in sorrow. And I am glad you have shared it here so others know they aren't alone.

Wishing you a better day tomorrow. Sharon

I feel the same way.... but I guess I am just selfish cause I don't feel embarrassed about it..my kids and my husband are my life........we cant be expected to just pick up and get over it... don't be to hard on yourself. I also cant believe that this is my life... why me and my family got this kinda life and others that are doing terrible things are alive.. I don't understand it ... I am soo soo sorry that you are having to go through this.

I am right there with you. I can't seem to understand why me. I lost my father at 10, grandparents by 23, mom, brother, hephew and my husband was with me since I was 21 providing me support for all my losses. Now I am by myself and I have to learn how to go on without my husband. I just can't understand why. I think may be a few of us are feeling this way since Valentine's Day is almost here and we know that we don't have the love of life any longer. HUGS

Hi My name is Linda I losted my bestfreind 4yrs ago,The pain is still there.My heart stiil is broken,Gary was my whole world we did everthing together.So i guess I'am still feeling sorry for myself.Take care everyone on this site..

Me too. Today would have been our 45th annivesary but she died last Dec. We wanted to get married on the 14th but, that was a Saturday that year and Chicago City Hall wasn't open on Saturdays. So we got married on Fri.
the 13th. Back then the TV stations would send crews out to Ciy Hall to film couples getting married on St.Valentines Day, and since I had called in sick to work that day, we had to work hard, ducking behind marble columns and into doorways, trying not to be in a camera shot.
I emailed her today. It made me feel better.