I am so very sorry for your loss. It is still so early in your grief that it is expected to have days like this. It will get better but it takes time, allow your son to help you. He is grieving and ,maybe this is his way of dealing with it. Don't feel like you must force yourself to anything right now. Just take care ofyourself and rely on others as the opportunities arise. Breathe and sleep and eat as you can. This is the worst thing that can happen to someone and it takes a lot to survive it. I just had 9 months on the 23rd and while my grief isn't so gut wrenching as it was it is still my constant companion. Come here often this site and the friends I made here were instrumental to my survival.
Gentle hugs and huge prayers
Cathy

I am sorry you are feeling so sad and for your loss. My husband passed 6months ago on the 23rd. I am doing okay but I do still grieve for my husband a lot. And have moments of profound sadness.
If you need to rest please rest. This is the hardest thing we go through in life.
Come to this site also and let us encourage you, pray for you, and help.

Marilyn

I'm sorry that today has been horrible for you. Your body is going through so much right now. When you do think of things that you feel that you have to do write them down and start a list. Then put the list aside and try not to think about it. When your son is home there might be things on the list that he can help you with. That will help him feel like he can actually do something that is helpful to you and in his way make a small difference. It's hard for him to see you so miserable and I'm sure that he is worried about you. You need to grieve. Let him help you with things and relieve some of the pressure on both of you. If possible talk things over with him and share how you are feeling since you might be thinking about things differently.

We have all been right where you are now. It really stinks! I'm so sorry for your recent loss, it will get easier but it takes time. I hate my new life but what choice do we have but to go on.
Try to stay busy, go to grief support groups, read about other widows.
It not a easy trip, just one step at a time, for just 1 day at a time.
Take care, Hugs,
JoAnn

Violet - I'm going to pass on to you what a kind widow passed on to me very, very early on. I didn't even know her, but she had heard about Joe, and came in to the deli to see me. She clasped my hand, and said - your grief is like a raw wound right now. Sleep, drink water, take your vitamins, and that's it. That's all you absolutely need to do for right this minute. She was right. That's it. The rest will come in its own good time. I know how you're hurting. We've all been through it. Stay with us. Hugs, Marsha

Dear Violet,
I am so sorry you feeling so bad, but it's normal. Bless your heart, it's only been a couple of weeks or so for you. You are still in shock and pain. Right now just rest & sleep when you can. The other Ladies gave you good advice. Let your son be there . It's ok for him to see your grief. I'm sure he needs to see it, he is grieving too and it is helping him by taking care of you.
Just take your time, take care of you only and do not worry about anything else right now. You will get through this and will be able to handle things later.
Sending prayers and warm hugs, Lucy

What more can I say that hasn't been said? They are right and like they said, we have had that raw wound of having the most important person snatched from us. It hurts. It has to hurt, and I am sorry. Hope you find the support and encouragement here. It was what I clinged to in those hard times. Sharon

I'm so sorry for your pain. I find that focussing my energy on others helps me not think about my own pain and loss as much. Sometimes just forcing myself to go outside and run an errand really helps.

I was an emotional mess after I lost my DH. Felt so vulnerable, scared and helpless. Just breathe, take one moment at a time, and ride the roller coaster of emotions. You are perfectly normal.

There isn't much that seems to help me except remembering to breathe. I learned in grief counseling to take two deeps breaths every couple of hours. It does seem to make me feel better after I do them. I wish you strength just to get through the day.

You have heard a lot of good advice................one other thing I did that helped was to journal here at ds..............it was comforting to have my friends comment or just let me know they were sad right with me, or encourage me and help me realize that we all are getting through the best way we can..................L

its ok to be and feel what you are feeling...your son loves you unconditionally he hurts when you hurt...its good to sleep now perhaps there may come a time when you do not sleep and maybe this is your body balancing out for all this shock its trying to absorb. I am not sure if it helps you but it helped me to know others have walked the road ahead of me and made it through...it gave me strength to do the same. Blessing to you, so so so sorry you have to go through this terrible journey