Widows & Widowers Support Group

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LyzbethB 10/11/2014

I am 7 months into my loss, and still have problems with nausea and sometimes dry heaves in the morning. Have been checked by the doctor, but all is fine.. I take an antidepressant and Ativan as needed, but these symptoms continue. I have lost 17 pounds and do really try to eat/instant breakfast etc. and my weight seems to be holding. We were married 50 years and my doc thinks that is a factor in my recovery. I see a therapist and attend a support group, and do think this is beneficial, but the pain is so intense. I read your posts and all of you suffer. Maybe we just do it in different ways. A glass of wine helps, but one can't start the day that way
Is this common? Betty.

Shrn 10/11/2014

There are times when we are physically nauseous over the pain we're in. As long as you can keep sipping water and keep in touch with your doctor hopefully it will improve. Try small meals and light snacks. Hope you feel better soon. Sharon

marjoe 10/11/2014

Betty - I agree with Sharon. Try to take your vitamins every day and maybe Ensure to get the nutrients you need? I also lost a lot of weight after Joe died, even though I was eating (or at least I thought I was). If you can't eat meals, snack. And yes, this is not uncommon. I hope this eases - Marsha

soalone2to1 10/11/2014

Betty,

I have been sick 3 times since my husband passed. Each time it was when I got highly anxious over things and then felt the nausea and just jittery tummy. As soon as I calmed down so did the nausea. I do believe it is our body's reaction to the pro longed stress and pain we are in. This is not an easy journey that has been thrust upon us and we have to take extra special care to try to stay as calm as possible. Easier said than done.

greyhounder 10/11/2014

First I am a large lady. I was nauseated for months after losing Alan. I lost 37 pounds. There are still times I get nauseated. I eat cereal, avocados, and will cook meat in the crockpot and make soft tacos. I am not interested in cooking at all.
We were married for 36 years. It has been 10 months since I lost him. I want to evidentially move and every time I think about it, I get sick.

chipstears 10/11/2014

I am at 15 months. I've lost 22 lbs and still have no desire to eat and definitely don't want to cook. I force myself to eat. As one of my friends said. Most people live to eat but I eat to live. Not sure how long this part of this journey will last. I am just taking it step by step. God Bless chipstears

sassiesoftail 10/12/2014

This weekend has been tough. I have that empty feeling in my gut, dry mouth and nd desire for food. I forced myself to eat a beef patty and an orange yesterday.
I know that I would skip meals a lot more often if I didn't cook for my eldest son weekday evenings.
I hope you feel better.
Hugs, Sandi

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