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Fathers Day...its here...

matthewsmom10
matthewsmom10
Well I have anticipated this day with much anxiety, fear, and dread...but yet it is here. My family will have a big celebration to honor my Dad, and brother in law....they of course have offered to come here, or left it open for us to come there...whatever makes us happy or comfortable, They try there best, and I do appreciate it. I am blessed with wonderful family and friends...that want me to" feel better". I don't know how I will get out of bed tomorrow, much less get through the day...I know I will because I have to for Matthew, I know that this is equally as hard on him, and I cant fix this, I cant make it any better. Fathers Day was always a big deal for us...breakfast in bed, church, big cookout with family, lots of pampering for Brian. Somehow I know we will get through this...I will spend the day with our wonderful son, and be thankful for the beautiful little man he is becoming, and together we will think of way to honor his Daddy. Thanks for letting me babble...Hugs, Lauri
deleted_user
deleted_user
Lauri, yes another one of those not so special days anymore. I know you and Matthew will find a way to honor his Daddy and share the wonderful memories that you have.....wishing you all the best for tommorrow and the days ahead.....hugs
lovedaisies
lovedaisies
I know Father's Day will be a hard time for you and your sweet Matthew. I'm glad your family is supportive----and as in my family----they do want us to "feel better"-----that is a long way off. Maybe Matthew can release a balloon with a note to his daddy-----

I hope your day will include time for you to remember special times you shared----

Hugs to you, Lauri
Sallie
cheerryG
cheerryG
From experience, anticipating an event like this seems harder than actually getting through it. I hope you take the offer and spend time with them. Remember that by trying to make you `feel better`, it will make them feel better too. I know how hard it is for my boys, they are both dads and are expected by their in-laws to have a special day. I hope that with help from loved ones we can all get through it, and maybe find a moments peace. G-
Nicola37
Nicola37
Hi Lauri
You will get through it for Matthew, it's never going to be the same for either of you, but you will find new ways to celebrate and remember Brian. We had our first Fathers Day last year about 6 weeks after Ric died, I remember we released balloons from the place where Ric always took Thom on fun days out. We can't do that this year as we've moved, but we made a chocolate cake yesterday to celebrate, and we are taking some sunflowers to the cemetery, feeding the ducks, and then releasing a balloon later. Thoms also making daddy a card. We are going to visit my dad later too. I was going to take Thom for dinner in a restaurant but it's too painful to see all those fortunate kiddies that still have their daddy's. I hope you do ok today and make the best of what you and Matthew can. Hugs to you both xx
matthewsmom10
matthewsmom10
Thank you to all of you, and I had not thought of releasing balloons today...not sure why. We have done that before with messages to Brian, I dont know why I would not have thought of it for today...my brain just does not work...we always go to the cemetary or back yard to do it but I like the idea of going somewhere special to us. Maybe we will go down by the lake, we always loved it there, and Matthew loves to feed the ducks too. I know I should go see my family, Matthew would love it and they will be much happier if we are together...I hope everyone has the best day they can. hugs, lauri
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry that you have to go through this, and remember last year for us here. I'm glad you are releaseing balloons. It is what I did last year. One for all three dad's to let them know how loved they are....STILL and belive they got them!

Just as I believe that brian will get your's and Matthew's, along with every thought you have for him today.

Wishes for peace and love to both of you Diane