At my age. I bought a double stone. All the widow/widowers plan to be buried next to their spouses.Sandee

Ruth, I had the same thoughts you had when my husband died. It was sudden and I had to make a quick decision about what sort of site to buy. I ended up choosing a site that was a single width but double deep (so that when my time came my casket would be buried above his). I had never heard of that idea before but it gave options. There is long life in my family and it is quite likely that I could live another 30 - 40 years. Like you, I wasn't contemplating remarriage, and still think it is very unlikely. I ordered a single headstone but with room left for my name if I am buried with him. The stone is designed in a way where the open space is not glaring and it looks nice in the meantime.

My husband's siblings have told me they will not think less of me if I do remarry and am buried elsewhere, and my kids would like for me to have someone to grow old(er) with, so we shall see what the future brings. Alice

My husband was cremated, which was his wish.

We scattered his ashes along the beautiful creek that ran through our small farm. He loved that place so, and that is where he wanted to rest.

'Blessings~~~~

KK

My late husband's ashes were scattered at his family's farm. Five years later, I married a widower who had a double stone for his late wife and himself. We were already engaged and in love when I saw it for the first time. My heart sank and I felt heartsick about it for a long time. I couldn't get over the idea that our marriage would be just a "nice arrangement" until he went back to his "real" wife. Two years in to our marriage, he bought a new gravesite at a cemetery near our home for the two of us. We will have one stone, with one name centered on it, and the other added later under it. He wishes he did that with his late wife's stone so it wouldn't look one-sided, as though she were abandoned. It could be recarved or the words "loving wife and mother" added to the other side. Difficult situation but thankfully, our children are grateful that we found each other and do not object to our decision.

I feel somewhat guilty. After choosing together and making a downpayment on an above ground place for our ashes; I was offered a 'free' space in a family plot of 4 (His mom, dad, and sister). It was a very hard decision to make and my finances are unsettled still. The headstone has his family name on it, with all their names engraved smaller underneath. The engraver was kind enough to make room for my name under his. I pray that he forgives me and understands I did what I thought was best under these circumstances.

I bought a double marker bench, to be set on the two grave plots I bought when my husband died. I am 68 and can't imagine remarrying after 45 years with my husband. When I ordered the engraving for his side of the stone, the funeral home wanted me to inscribe my side as well with not just my name and birth date, but all the info my kids would later add (Beloved wife and mother, etc.). My kids got REALLY upset about this! Having just buried their dad, they didn't want to have imagine (or see) the wording on their mom's grave... So we had only my name and birthdate added on "my" side of the bench. (It's pretty odd to go there and sit on my own grave while visiting my husband's!)

I bought a double headstone and two plots. My husbands wish was to be cremated. I will be buried next to him.... that is my place. If I should have another relationship there are options to buy an additional plot in the same area so if someone would want to be buried next to me that's an option. In my state there can be up to 3 in a plot depending on the burial choice so that is an option too. I will never marry again I know that. If I should find someone to be with I will know my husband sent that person to me. Check with the funeral home or cemetery to see what options may be

Hugs

Lisa

My Tim's parents bought 2 plosts in their home church cemetary. They gifted that to me after Tim passed. Due to a huge misunderstanding I had Tim shipped from CA to MN to be buried. When I commissioned the headstone I pretty much let the headstone place make the decisions. So it is a double with Tim's information on one side and all but my passing date on the other. It is a little disconcerting to see your own information on a headstone. Tim would have been cremated as he wanted, but he had shared with me that if his parents were still living that I would need to bury him, so I did.
My wishes are that I be cemated and If I do remarry I would request my ashes be split between the two. If that makes sense.
Hugs, Sandi

I buried my husband in a family plot and added my name to the headstone when his was engraved. I overheard my mother talking to my brother about this topic and my reply was that if I ever remarried that is where my husband would go as well. that was all I said to her, but in reality while I don't foresee myself every remarrying, I am 54 so who knows what my future will hold and if I was ever to enter into a serious relationship , he would need to understand right away that I can't erase (nor do I want to ) over 30 years of marriage and that in many ways Ron would/will be an integral part of any relationship. So regardless I would want to be buried next to him.

My wife was cremated ( her wishes ) but I had her ashes separated. Some were given to her family and I have already spread a small amount at our favorite beach and a small amount shall be taken to Montana to be spread at a specific place.

I am in the process of arranging for two cemetery plots and the remainder of her ashes will be placed in one of the plots next to the one that shall be mine. I am designing a double headstone to show the date we were married as well as the date we had our marriage vows renewed.

To be honest, it has been strange since she passed as I don't have a place where her name appears and where I can go and sit and talk to her and leave flowers. Maybe when we are both gone, only the groundskeeper will see her name / my name while he is mowing but I want her remembered.

I am not worried about remarrying and facing that problem with another wife. It would be impossible for me to find another woman with that much love for me ( and vice versa ) if I searched the world from one end to the other.

I think the decision(s) as to headstones really varies depending upon the circumstances with each person.

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My husband's urn is still at home with me. I bought a niche for the two of us. I wanted to get a plaque with his and my name on it but my daughter objected. She doesn't want to see my name on it until I am gone. She can't bear to think I maybe be gone from her too.