Sorry for your loss. I lost my wife and year ago October 2015. I'm so lost without her. We did not have any kids. I cry myself to sleep at night. All we can do is pick up the pieces and try to heal and move on. Easier said than done your kids need you more than ever you need to be strong for them.

I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you with 3 young children. You will need help so that you can take care of yourself as well as your children. In the beginning you may be numb. That will begin to slowly wear off. You may want to look into a bereavement group for yourself and your older children. Just begin to focus on each moment. That is all I could manage for most of the first year One day at a time. Allow yourself to grieve and try to rest, eat and drink water. If you can, try to sleep so that you have the strength to get through each day. It is helpful to come to this site and express your feelings. You will receive support you may not find elsewhere because we all understand. God Bless. Marybeth

Hi,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. You are going to have to be so strong. You have a lot on your plate. I can understand your anger. You have a right to feel the way you do. I can only say that I am sure your husband was very sick and he did what he did to get out of pain. There is no way to explain it otherwise. You are so blessed to have 3 kids and they need you now more than ever and I am sure you have the strength to do this. I know someone who had a similar situation and they were able to come through. It has only been 2.5 months since my husband of 30 years died suddenly at home. I still cannot believe it. You are in my prayers :-)

I am so sorry for your loss. It must be very hard to handle it, but just remember you have 3 beautiful children that need you as well, you and them can get through this together. Try and see if you can speak to someone. There must be a group close to you.
You have found the right website and we are all here for you. Cry when ever you want and how long you want. Please remember to sleep when you can, eat when you can and drink lots of water. We are here for you. Always remember that.

The Hospital or the coroner should be able to help you out. They will inform you about places to take him to now..so sorry your hear with us but we are all together here too :)

I am sorry for the loss that brings you here. My husband Cliff died on Veterans Day back in 2007. It was a heart attack and totally unexpected. I did CPR but couldn't save him. He died in my arms in front of our sons. Thanksgiving was just 2 weeks later. Friends made us dinner, we were still too in shock to cope with anything. That was followed by my son's birthday, then Christmas, then New Year's - all in about 6 weeks. Somehow I put one foot in front of the other, made the arrangements, had the funeral, and held it together for our kids. It was harder than I can really describe. I think what saved me was I joined here and found people who understood what I was going through. I also arranged for counseling as soon as I could. I got mine for free through an Employee Assistance Program at work, one of my sons went to the same counselor, and the other received his counseling for free through his school psychologist and school guidance counselor.

Now is the time to call in favors and make use of whatever resources are available. Talk to your doctor, your priest, the school, as well as family and friends. If you are working, talk to your human resources folks to find out what's available through your work, or through your husband's work.

I am sorry you needed to be here, but glad you found us. I stayed on here after I rebuilt my life and am one of the Community Leaders (or "CL") for this group. I survived it, and you will, too, but it's going to take little steps at first to get through this. Don't give up - you can get through this and you don't have to go it alone.

Love and Hugs,
Martha, co-Community Leader

Hi. I know you don't know how to do this. None of us do. But your situation has extra layers of questions and grief some of us can only imagine. I'm so sorry. I wish I could take some of the pain from you, and I wish I could answer some of your questions. This darkness that surrounds you right now won't last forever, but it will last a while. You will hear from many to be strong for the kids, and that is true. But allow yourself to cry, scream, and lean into the grief you feel, too. Take care of you, and seek help from friends, counseling, your doctor -- and if you are a woman of faith, then your church or a program called GriefShare. You need to give it all a try, but in your own time. Sweetie, I won't lie to you. This will be a nightmare. But you will survive it. We're here to help, even if it is to just listen to you pour your heart out. You are not alone, and, right now, with your loss so raw and new, that's the only comfort we can offer -- but we offer it freely. Love and prayers that you can rest
Joni
P.S. Glad you found this site. The people here were so wonderful to me when I needed them four years ago.

My husband was murdered 15 months ago and left behind our little guy was 16 months at the time. It's so hard to wrap your head around what happened but as others and I will tell you, you have to keep it together for your babies. It is going to be hard to make those final arrangements for sure but unfortunately it has to been done and the sooner the better. Also if your husband worked long enough to get Social Security sign up soon for the babies and you! That was for me the most painful of all the tying up of loose ends but thank goodness for it! Sending big hugs!

I am so sorry for your loss! I can't even begin to imagine your pain in this circumstance. It is hard, but just keep putting one foot in front of another. Some moments will be so hard, you feel as if you can't breathe. But you will get through them for your kids. Hugs and prayers!