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DECIDED to stay

Nicker07
Nicker07
Well took my place off the market.

and while I felt unsure I know that I can not move and get what I have for the price I am doing now.

And knowing my neighbors who have helped me through a lot - starting over in a new state and place now I feel ok with not starting over.
I did want to move where young grandchildren are but realize now they are busy in their own lives so....

Its been 2 years 10 months since I lost Roger and I wonder somedays at times how am I gonna do all this.....LIKE its been said before

You never know how strong you are until you have no choice.

SO have a great day everyone. And I wish all you new widows/widowers a big hug for when you need it. I have had several along my way to here.
sandeestttn
sandeestttn
I m glad you are happy with your decision..sounds like you are at peace.....((h(ugs))))
barbarame
barbarame
Good for you. I would never have believed that I could stay on in my home, but I did, and likde you, feel it is ok to keep my home going...........(((HUGS)))
dl1959
dl1959
Good for you. Sounds like you've turned a corner in this journey.
Good Luck!
NewRoadsForMe
NewRoadsForMe
When grief is new, we just want to run away from it, like if we could hide or move into someone else's life in order to have a life. I'm glad to hear you decided to stay. I know you love country life (like I do) and enjoy your animals. I do, too.

I wish our children would understand how little we have in life now, without our soulmates, and would step in (at least for the first 2 or 3 years) and keep us included in their activities. But they have their own lives. Often when people make a move to be nearer their kids, they often end up in a strange city with not much more contact with them than before. I think staying where we have SOME happiness of our own (memories and current activities) is probably best for most people, although not all. We have to make our own lives now. I've learned that I cannot ride on the coattails of anyone else for a life. I have to make my own. That means stepping out of my comfort zone and trying some new people, places, and things.

Welcome home, Nicker, and may you find comfort where you always did, even though it is different than it was. You are HOME! YAY!! Congratulations!!