Mel, if you like this guy, give him a play! He may be a terrible kisser anyway, lol, any you would be worried for nothing. :)

To me he just seems like he is really shy. Maybe you ladies don't understand, but guys have been shot down so many times by ladies that they fancied that we can get fearful about making a move that gets rejected.

Just because he is over 20 does not mean that he still does not worry about rejection.

Like I said, I don't think he has the courage to make a move first, so if you like the guy... Of course if you don't like him in that way don't encourage him.

You will do the right thing, I am sure,

Bob

I had to look up what NYE meant. Oh, THAT. I agree with Bob. Sometimes us women don't see things from 'their' standpoint (men being from Mars, women from Venus ya' know). The way I was brought up, you always let 'him' make the first move (that can make things even more awkward). Now days this has changed (at least that's what I'm told). Hang loose, have a good time and see how today and the evening unfolds, then go by the gut feeling and that inner voice as to how to react at midnight. This is even awkward for me to explain.

He is shy. Every time I move closer to him he backs up. Yesterday, I touched his shoulder and he flinched. Lol!
That gives me mixed signals. But, I give them too. I am a very touchy feely person period. So, he sees that with me and probably doesn't know what to think...
OMG! I can do this!
Without getting drunk...

Mel, I am sure your adrenalin is riding high! Just do what you feel is right in your heart, maybe just a New Years kiss is what he needs. I dont think men are used to us women making the first move anyway. You will probably surprise the heck out of him. Sounds like things are going nicely, so happy you are enjoying him. Happy New Year! Patricia

If I am correct he is new widower. Just like you this might the first "relationship with a women" since his wife died. Plus he is visiting a new country with no one but his son. He might not be ready to have a dating relationship; just a friendship.
Go slow, and if you want to give a kiss at mid-night do it if you don't then do not. Have fun.

I say...Go ahead, plant a big one right on the mouth..... just like pulling off a band aid...There is going to have be a first..... let it happing at midnight.... you'll feel less inhibited everyone else is going to be doing the same thing. being a loved one or stranger....Go for it girl....

Listen to Sandee, go girls! Enjoy the moment.

You have to remember that even though you talked and skyped you still hadn't spent any time with him. So it still is physically awkward even though you probably feel as if you know him pretty well. Plus you went from never meeting hm in person to spending two weeks doing things together. Just remember that on NYE people will kiss complete strangers so go ahead and kiss.

Best wishes

Russ

Just waiting for the next update. Hope all goes well for you. Your excitement and fun is good for a lot of us. I agree with what others have said, just enjoy the friendship and see what happens. You may have made a very good friend - or maybe a relationship.

I come and see her updates too. Like reading a book, waiting for the next chapter.....lol

I don't feel so bad now. I feel like a teenager looking to see what Mel post!!! LOL

Mel, I wish I had all the answers to the questions you are asking. I would not know what to do myself. Hey I give you kudos for skyping. After 26 1/2 years of marriage and total of 28 years being with the same man, it is a scary thought as to how to act or what to do!!! At least that is how I feel!!!

Be safe and enjoy your time getting to know your new friend!!! Susan

Can't wait for the next posting :-)

I am sure you will solve the situation. As for me, I say, just give him a New Year kiss and see what happens, no harm in that. Last night I was at the Sydney Harbour Bridge to see the fireworks and see the New Year in (it is already 3 pm, Ist January, here) and I was kissed by a couple of strangers, I recovered and so have they I guess.

All the best, Mel.