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I'm really beginning to think I'm cursed. I'm tired of people saying when it rains it pours - how many years is it going to go on? I don't know what I did to deserve all these problems. It never ends - it just goes on and on and on and on. So many friends showed up at the hospital and the service - and where are they now? - gone.
After 9 weeks without a shower I thought my bathroom and plumbing problems were behind me - but - they're all back again and now (today) I have holes in ceiling in the family room again. The back sliding door won't open and the other large window was broken in a storm. Our storm last week caused a large tree branch to fall on electrical wires - I called the electric company today and learned I will have to be the one paying for it because the wire is coming from the house. Let's not forget the tree in the front yard which is now dead and everyone is telling me I have to cut down. How can I pay for all this?? I tried to call my husband's aunt - the only relative he has left - the phone's been disconnected - that's not a good sign.
I never did get summer work (I'm a teacher) and haven't gotten hours at my 2nd job for 3 months because - of a mistake. What luck. I still have a half done root canal - why? - my crooked dentist charged $1200 to my insurance for a routine check up and wiped out my insurance without my knowledge- not sure what I'm doing about that. I never heard of that happening before to anyone else.
So - today - new hole in ceiling, branch on wires which I must pay, shower leaks again - but- my daughter is finally offered a job. OMG - good news - is that possible? I finally have something to be happy about?? So - I wait for my daughter to come home from the interview and I wait and wait and wait - try calling her cell - she doesn't answer. Finally sends a message that she is buying a new cell and will be home soon.
I still wait - starting to get worried - realized she is buying this cell off someone on craigs list - she's only had her driving license 2 weeks and I worry when she drives. By 3 hours I'm really worried - she isn't answering. Finally she calls - in a police station on the south side of Chgo - we live in a north suburb - she never goes in the city.
She went to buy the cell phone from a stranger in Chgo - southside - not a good neighborhood - she's so naive. She insists she thought she was in the near north - they guy in Craigslist told her that. She just punched the address in the GPS. She and her boyfriend waited about 20 min - he didn't show up when he said. Finally came - and he got in the car. Next thing - police came over - search the craigslist guy - found drugs on him - and impounded my car - I'll have to pay $1,000 to get my car back. I'm sick over it. I really do feel cursed.
Guess I just wanted to vent to someone - don't even want to tell my friends - they don't want to hear it - probably why they don't want to be around. Even the dog was put on xanax yesterday - may I should be too.
After 9 weeks without a shower I thought my bathroom and plumbing problems were behind me - but - they're all back again and now (today) I have holes in ceiling in the family room again. The back sliding door won't open and the other large window was broken in a storm. Our storm last week caused a large tree branch to fall on electrical wires - I called the electric company today and learned I will have to be the one paying for it because the wire is coming from the house. Let's not forget the tree in the front yard which is now dead and everyone is telling me I have to cut down. How can I pay for all this?? I tried to call my husband's aunt - the only relative he has left - the phone's been disconnected - that's not a good sign.
I never did get summer work (I'm a teacher) and haven't gotten hours at my 2nd job for 3 months because - of a mistake. What luck. I still have a half done root canal - why? - my crooked dentist charged $1200 to my insurance for a routine check up and wiped out my insurance without my knowledge- not sure what I'm doing about that. I never heard of that happening before to anyone else.
So - today - new hole in ceiling, branch on wires which I must pay, shower leaks again - but- my daughter is finally offered a job. OMG - good news - is that possible? I finally have something to be happy about?? So - I wait for my daughter to come home from the interview and I wait and wait and wait - try calling her cell - she doesn't answer. Finally sends a message that she is buying a new cell and will be home soon.
I still wait - starting to get worried - realized she is buying this cell off someone on craigs list - she's only had her driving license 2 weeks and I worry when she drives. By 3 hours I'm really worried - she isn't answering. Finally she calls - in a police station on the south side of Chgo - we live in a north suburb - she never goes in the city.
She went to buy the cell phone from a stranger in Chgo - southside - not a good neighborhood - she's so naive. She insists she thought she was in the near north - they guy in Craigslist told her that. She just punched the address in the GPS. She and her boyfriend waited about 20 min - he didn't show up when he said. Finally came - and he got in the car. Next thing - police came over - search the craigslist guy - found drugs on him - and impounded my car - I'll have to pay $1,000 to get my car back. I'm sick over it. I really do feel cursed.
Guess I just wanted to vent to someone - don't even want to tell my friends - they don't want to hear it - probably why they don't want to be around. Even the dog was put on xanax yesterday - may I should be too.
First, does homeowners insurance cover the electircal line isue? Since it was the result of damages from a storm it is worth looking into.
Second, go onto Craigslist and find the ad. Make your daughter show it to you. Print it out and take it to the police....do not get mad...just try to show them that she was honeslty there to buy a phone. It sounds as if she is young...you need to make her understand the dangers of allowing anyone into her car...especially a stranger.
Also found out story is a little different - she went with her boyfriend to buy the phone. They were parked in a 7-11 parking lot. After she bought the phone the police came over. It was her boyfriend who had not drugs but a drug paraphenalia object in his pocket - which looking online is worse than having drugs on you. My dtr didn't know he had it. I still have to get my car back. She keeps saying "it wasn't my fault" - meanwhile - has he or his parents called to apologize or offer to pay for this? No.
Lori
Actually the person who wrote it could have been worse - yeah it sure could have. When my dtr first called she said "you're going to kill me" and I thought she'd crashed the car. Considering I just took the comprehension/collision off the car last week I would have killed her - but car is fine. Her boyfriend had a "pipe" - no drugs - which he admitted and she did not know about. They had no permission or right to search the car - they were coming out of the 7/11 with icees when the police pulled into the lot. It was a nightmare - took 8 hours to get my car back and close to $1500 because I had to change the title from my husband's name to mine.
So this morning I look at the news on line and see there was a very bad car accident last night (one car crash) at 3 am very close to my house in a rather residential area. Three teenagers/young adults were killed and a fourth is in critical condition. They have not released the names yet but with kids of my own who are 17, 22 and 24 I'm thinking it is likely one of my kids will know them.
This was a shot of reality. Maybe I should be on meds to help not allow the "smaller" things in life to drive to to the point of insanity.