Facebook has a groups for widows. To connect. There is also the Soaring Spirits website. I'm sure there are others...

Thank you Myfavourite I didn't want to connect on Facebook because I wanted to connect anonymously due to huge family and friend network. I didn't want them to see or know I have or wanting to reach out to others as they won't understand why I can't confide in them. It also gives me security in knowing there is a wall of anonymity when sharing my heart.

The widow groups on FB are private. Things I share on there do not show up on my regular page where family and friends see. The Soaring Spirits site might be more to your liking. You can make a profile and share only what you want. I get the need for anonymity though.

Thank you Myfavourite! Glad you understand. I might try FB also. Struggling as it has only been 96 days and getting frustrated with people telling me to move on. It is easier to pretend everything is ok on the outside while crying on the inside.

good health WildRose....
dating is in the eye of the beholder and i think peeps will use any medium to search for or find it
post here peeps are up at night
. facebook, widownet, goggle your zip code. there are groups that meet up and bike ride.
i would not text or email anyone one to one that opens up the personal door only open that door when you are ready
any site where you can find a Warrior willing to help you battle the Grief Monster.
i dont think we will ever move on from memories of life well spent
it is the grief the can entrap us to yesterday gone.
so much reminds me of her she was in the medical field
so Wild Rose my Warrior Widow use your keyboard to battle the Grief Monster. and to the peeps that tell you to move on just tell them "what you really feel and you move on" BlackHole

Dear BlackHole, Thank you for your support and advice in particular about not opening the door till I am ready and also how to continue battling. Thank you x
Mine was a chef....ill for many years but he loved his food and going out to dine. So many things revolve around food that for the first three months, I lost my appetite to eat anything as he always made me dishes and then would sit there to see if I liked it. :(
I hope you find that the black hole left is soon filled with the hopes of a new star xxx

WildRose, just a reminder here. No matter where you log in, some person you talk to is going to want to hold your hand. As a widow, I've avoided special sites for widows just for that reason. And you really have to take into consideration how exhausting reading others' emotions and feelings will be at such sites. This is most likely the reason that this Widows and Widowers support board is so slow and inactive, it's draining to associate with hurtful, familiar patterns; grief is hell and who wants to stay in hell? For how long?

I'd advise you to make friends across this DS world of communities. After all, grief or the process of grieving involves anxiety, depression, PTSD, loneliness, and much more of the script for needing emotional support. This is a wonderful support site (been here for years!)

Just simply take your time and explore this site, WildRose. I imagine you will find useful help from all types of backgrounds. People here are often kind and considerate. There are also private community groups managed by members of this site, and you may build your own personal support community right here at DS.

I am so sorry that you are having sleepless or restless nights (been there too!).

Always the best to you. God be with you.

Dearest Remiah, Thank you for your advice and support. I have not joined any sites but here as I have experienced in real life the start of those already wanting to step in and be more than just the shoulder to cry on. It's why I didn't want a dating site. Not against that for anyone else as I do believe everyone deserves to be loved and give love and that can look like many forms. My mum remarried after my dad passed and she is happy. For me right now it is not what I need or want.
Being here and reading others and their pain or advice brings me solace. I feel like I am reading similar souls. Other times I read and think how lucky I am and that I should be grateful when I read people who lost their loves and only had a short time or are left with no kids. There are times I read and think oh wow, wish I had 40+ years with mine or I wish I was where they are now...not in so much pain. I also have gauged that I am actually further down then where I thought I was when reading those who just recently lost. While it has only been 97 days...It still feels like yesterday when I was in his arms.....

WildRose,

Believe me, you are very welcome to anything I write that helps you feel lifted in spirit. I, too, am not interested in dating nor will I ever marry again. And, as with you, I'm not so hard on those who remarry or date after burying a spouse or life partner. I've had so many men, young and old, to come on to me. I'm nice to them and I enjoy the moment of attention, yet my husband's spirit is so close and I actually know that he wants me to wait for him.

In the beginning, I was painfully aware that he was around me, and to mention it, he told me days before he passed that he was not going anywhere. Strange thing is that I still feel married to him...just in a different way. And I could tell you so many experiences I've had with him. I rejoice in the moments we have a "soulful" relationship and these are complete magical moments and frequently are times when we share oneness totally beyond what we shared in life on earth. There is one such story of which I've not publicly shared, only my adult sons are aware of it, and this one is so, so, sacred. It was a miracle no doubt too.

I will warn you this: be very careful with who you share your heart with. Widows are often foolish women. I will leave you with a quote from one of my favorite movies, and this is one with the theme of a lady mourning the passing of her husband and following a sense of the loss of love with a man she knew nothing of before falling in love again. The man speaking to her is the wise one:

"I thought you were one woman with sense...but you're like all the rest of them.
Fall for any man

who'll promise you the moon

and end by taking everything

you have to give.
Oh, don't trouble yourself, my dear.

It's not your fault."

I'm here a couple of days a week. Let me know if I can support and help you in any way. Stay focused and in the moment. There are many hills and valleys along the way, yet you still have a connection with a power greater than ourselves, God, and as you have faith in Him your spiritual life with your husband gets better and better. I know this is true.

Sleep peacefully tonight. You have so many here to travel this journey with you. And you are never alone.

Dearest Remiah, again I thank you and smile at your words. I didn't realise how this new position somehow makes people more vunerable and that the attention from what you are saying is common for is who are hurting. I guess it makes us prone to need something or someone to fill a void.
Love that you write about knowing your husband is near you. Like you, I have had some experiences where I know he is desperately trying to show me he is by my side. Makes me.think how can I do that if he is always with me? I will post about such an incident where I knew he was there.
Thank you my beautiful friend for your kind soul.
Grateful not to be alone in this pain x

I will look forward to your post(s) about times where you know he's there beside and with you, WildRose. Only God can map the way you communicate now. Stay optimistic. Not all of our beloved ones from the other side communicate in the same way, and some of the living ignore the spiritual signs out of ignorance or lack of faith in the afterlife. I speak with believers and nonbelievers. Believers are more sensitive to particular sounds, smells, feelings, daydreams, visions, and thoughts. The nonbelievers are easily distracted and likely to forget or ignore certain details surrounding the unseen or unnatural They don't often even care to recall special occasions or events, or situations shared with the departed ones.

I've learned to keep my thoughts focused. And my thought is very certain that my husband is still talking things through with me, and I can recall details and timelines in a new way than usual because of it. All now is almost as if I'm thinking as one with my husband, just the same or better than it was as when we were one in this life. Yes, it was quite weird at first. However, I understand more of what's going on each day. Give it time and you will too. Now is more for me and not less in any way. I'm so thankful too. I hope the same or similar experiences with you and your dear husband, WildRose.

Blessed hugs today!

Blessed hugs! Love it and returning them back to you dear Remiah!

Try googling it.