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Can't find peace

avamapp
avamapp
I am so very lonely although my kids are here, I need my husband. I want to talk to him if only in my dreams. This pain is unbearable. I know we will together one day. I was the one with the health problems high blood pressure over weight stress from work. The last Sunday before he past away he told my mother in law I didn't have to work if I didn't want to.I work at ups and it is only part time it would never pay for all the things he paid. We were married 25 years. He was healthy so the blood clot was what took him away from me. I feel empty. I went to the doctor the week before cause I thought I was having a heart attack it was my blood pressure 169/110.then one week later he is gone forever. I'm sorry just lost right now. My best friend left me.
sandy28
sandy28
Hello Ava, I'm sorry that you have to join us here but I hope you find some comfort. My husband died November 22, 2014 while out for a run. He was a healthy 44 year old, I found out 3 months after his death that he had a heart condition we were not aware of. I, like you have high blood pressure and have had several surgeries, so I considered myself the "sick" one. Never in my wildest nightmares would I have imagined this would be my life. It's a rough journey, keep getting up every day, I'm praying for all of us.
wendimac
wendimac
I'm so sorry for your loss, Ava. It is very hard, and I understand your feelings. My husband passed March 19 of this year, and although he had been sick, we didn't see it coming until it was too late. Again, I'm so sorry..this is a good site to come to, there are a lot of people who understand and can help.
JesusisOurSaviour
JesusisOurSaviour
Ava,
You have been through a very traumatic time with the sudden loss of your husband. Mentally and physically, you have barely had time to make sense out of anything.
. Please don't expect too much of yourself ,too soon. You just can't rush this devastating journey of grief. It is literally one baby step at a time. You take care of you, right now, be patient and.gentle with yourself. If you have anything on your mind that you need to share, keep posting, here. We are blessed to have a group of wonderful,
Supportive people to vent too. Again, Ava, I am so saddened for your loss.
Gentle hugs for you......Sandra