For a long time. We got mail for Vicki's ex's mother for years after she was gone. I'm getting plenty for Vicki, but it hasn't been very long.

I'm still getting life insurance offers addressed to my husband and forwarded to Georgia from Tennessee. Never got them before he died why now? Insanity.

I get stuff addressed to Joe all the time, and at first really hated to receive them. I still am not glad to open my mailbox and see mail addressed to him. ESPECIALLY, from AARP!! They just keep mailing junk to him. I sent one back with "deceased" on the envelope. Didn't matter, still get them. So, its their dime, they can just keep sending and I'll keep trashing.

Hugs, Joely

My husband has been gone over two years. He was a retired State Trooper. I still get things from the Trooper's Association addressed to him!! It makes me furious because they, of all people, should know he's been gone!!! I've made several phone calls, one of which was not pleasant, to try to get them to stop. Now when I get them, I just put "deceased" across the envelope and drop it back in the mailbox. I realize the mailing address is probably in the computer, etc., etc., but two years, come on people!!!
Carol

My sympathy and condolences in your loss.

My wife cycled off most of commercial mailing lists after 6-9 months. If you have a home and put the home in your name, that probably will make a difference.

This is a different perspective, but i like getting mail with my wife's name. I guess it seems like it is keeping her name alive. Sometimes i will send mail-orders to the house in her name and celebrate her when the package arrives. Ok, maybe i am a little loony.

I still receive mail for my husband, and he's been gone five years. I agree that it's disturbing, but after a while it became part of the daily routine. It doesn't bother me anymore. I just destroy it; I don't even bother sending it back. After this length of time, I'm pretty sure it won't make any difference.

After losing a spouse, every little reminder that they aren't here any longer becomes a thorn in our side--even if it's a piece of mail for them.

I hope the daily routine of collecting your mail becomes less hurtful as other things begin to take on a greater meaning in your life. TJ

I too still receive things for Kyle.. The worst offenders were from Credit Card companies that I canceled due to his death... They sent him credit cad OFFERS!!!

The one that REALLY got me though was our dentist office sending a reminder that it was time for his cleaning and check up... It wouldn't have been an issue, except that I had called 2 weeks prior to notify them of his death..

I received a letter from his health insurance company telling me that they had approved for him to be seen by his kidney specialist a month after he had passed away. I still receive a lot of mail in his name.

My husband got a check yesterday for $20 from his doctor's office - it's been more than nine months since he passed away. He hadn't been to the doctor in 10 months so if we overpaid did it take them 10 months to figure it out?

Three weeks after Joe died of lung cancer, the oncologist's office called to remind him of his appointment tomorrow. It was a painful moment for me but the woman on the phone was horrified and so sorry. I felt sorry for her, too. We need more human interaction to influence our computers. Joe had been going to this doctor's office for 2 years and they knew he died but didn't go into the computer and fix things.

I may be weird, but I kind of like it when mail comes for my husband. It makes me think he is still thought of. It comforts me in some odd way. Hugs~Shelley