Could you text the every day? I'm assuming you mean your son and dil. I text ppl when I feel alone. I've got two sons out of the house. One texts me immediately when I txt him, the other may take days. I've also got very close friends who I txt regularly. I hope you can set worry aside and just enjoy feeling like a kid playing in the rain.

This is something I have thought about for myself. I do have family call almost everyday, but even so none that actually come by. I am not so worried about myself if something happened, but more so for the pets my wife and I have. I would not want anything happen to them if I were to pass. I guess I need to make a plan with one of the family for access to the pets if something did happen to me.

I also worry about this in regards to my mother. She is starting to reach her late 70's. With being in different country it makes it hard to be there for her, but I know I would be if ever she needs me to be.

All the time. My niece lives right next door, but it has happened a few times, my dog alerts everyone when I fall outdoors. It might be time for one of those little buttons that you push for " Help I've fall and I can't get up!' soon. That or one of those loud marine horns.

I do all the mowing, chain saw work, everything on inside as well as outside. I am over cautious. I am afraid something will happen to me, like that. My mother lived in the projects, with neighbors on both sides, she fell and broke her hip, and laid there for 3 days, until my sister went to see why she wasn't answering her phone. She went back home, was outside, with people everywhere. She fell and broke it again. She must have laid hollering for at least 6 hours, before someone called police. She never spoke again, died shortly.

My father also sit there with gang green in his foot, my sister in Michigan called him, then called me, I ran over there, had to have his leg removed, and move in with me. He never recovered.

I might live right in town, But people wouldn't help me either. So I have to be careful,

I worry about it at times, but my son & his family are right next door. Although they don't visit or call me often enough. I do woorry if I were to fall or get hurt being alone.

My thoughts are for you not to get over tired or do things that could cause you to get hurt. If it needs to be done have someone there with you if it could be dangerous.

This is not a fun time in our life, but as you know God is watching us, its our job to be careful.
Hugs,
JoAnn

Hi, I so did not want to appear clingy and needy... to the point I would speak to my daughter only when she called me.... however she did keep in touch. But yes I do feel like if this or that happened what would happen? But then I think that would be in the "Good Lords Hands" Blessings!

I was diagnosed with a severe disability long before the death of my husband and coping with illness back then was not easy and sometimes I would get fed up at being ill but looking back to those times it is coping alone with severe disability these days without my husband that is a nightmare reality I would have thought impossible even in the very worst of nightmares. We ADAPT to crisis over time and my solution to the 'alone' part is I carry my cell phone and house keys with me in a 'fanny pack' which I wear 24/7/365 and only take off when I take a bath and even then it is always well within reach. This has saved my life on at least one occasion.

We need to be very open to what our new truth is trying hard to teach us of survival after the passing of our precious life-mates. Over time we learn to 'Bloom where we are planted.' and begin to make life viable once again. I have not yet fully arrived at a viable life from crisis with health being so overwhelming to cope with alone but I have acceptance of this nightmare truth and the PTSD is severe enough to cause numbness allowing for my surviving during the very worst of times.

Gentle ((hugs)) shared.

Keep sharing support -- that has allowed for my survival and I'm sure the survival of so many of us here coping with the pain of such overwhelming loss along with all of the changes in our lives this has forced onto us.

I think all of us one way or another think about this. I wonder if I slip in the tub, who would know and for how many days. Yes, you are right, you have a farm, don't know the answer, but yes, there are plenty of things to go wrong and no one would know.

I think it is a valid fear since you have acreage on your property. We moved into an apartment two years before Don died. It wasn't for the being alone as for his inability to keep up with daily chores, but now it's a blessing in ways we never knew. My daughter &SIL now manage the property.

I don't know what to suggest. When my mom was home alone my brother & I called to check morning and night. Sharon

You would not appear to too clingy, you have natural fears. I know I have now. I was pretty fearless before I was widowed. So I do understand your feeling. Even more so because a few days after my husband died, my stepbrother also died of a heart attack. He was 56, divorced, and lived on his own. It was his employer who raised the alarm because he had not turned up for work two day running and the employer contacted his daughter. He was found on his chair, his glasses on, with the newspaper next to him. He was found 3 days after his death.

That made me think hard, so I have arranged with a friend that she txt me everyday, just to see if I am OK. One of my daughters or the other also phones everyday. It reassures me and them. Before I leave the my house I go through my check list, keys, mobile, money. Keys, mobile, money.

Could you set up a txt arrangement with one of your friend, or your son so at least there would be a daily check? We have become more vulnerable and more fearful hence we have to have contingency plan in place.

Hugs to you. Take care of yourself.

It's funny but I noticed that immediately after family left after the funeral. I worry about getting locked out of the house. So I have this runners shoe pocket ( it holds a key and is strapped to your shoe laces ) that I always wear so I don't accidentally lock myself out ( I run also most mornings so I have this pocket on my running shoes also ).

I never really thought about if I fell or something. Yeah, that would be bad.

I just had a thought when reading about the key in the shoes.

If a thought ever hits you................ like locking yourself out of the house or anything, pay attention to it. If your mind tells you not to do something don't do it.

I even had a dream one time where my steering wheel came off in my hands while drving. My husband checked it and it was loose!

Just pay attention and listen to your thoughts now that we are alone.

There are services for medical/fire/security emergencies advertised on TV. You could wear a bracelet or necklace, at times of emergencies, you could press the button on the necklace or bracelet to activate emergency calls. Maybe you could look into this type of services. I always make a point to tell one or both daughters if I go somewhere or if workman is coming to my home. My youngest daughter always call once a day to check on me.

Just a note to those of you who might get one of those medic alert necklaces. The batteries need to be changed more often than the company will admit. Just leave you with this true story about my friend's mom.

The mother lived alone so they got her one of those medic alert necklaces. The company called her each month to verify that it would work. But she always stood close to the receiver when she tested it. So the battery became weak after a while but still tested ok.

Of course when she fell and broke her hip she was not close to the receiver and the necklace did not alert anyone. My friend's sister just happened to check on their mon after she had laid there for six hours.

So if you get one of those alert gadgets make sure they work :)

Yes, this is something I worried about. I have a friend who is also widowed and she made sure she checked on me.......... it was very comforting.

Be honest with your family. Explain your concerns. I'm sure a text once a day would be something they would be happy to do.