I am so sorry for what happened to your husband and also to you. I lost a loved one on June 2. It's not fair to have him taken from you so soon.

As for my own grief, I still feel as if I'm viewing the world through a fog, as if I might break though all this misery and have things back the way they were.

I hope you have lots of friends/family to be with you during this time and help pull you through.

thank you for your kind words.

Hi Lori my name is George, and my wife died on May 18th of this year. We were together for 10 years, she was 49 and I'm 44. I too had to make the decision to take my wife off of life support. I don't have nightmares about it and I'm sorry that you do. Just remember you did what you thought was best. That's what I do everytime I start feeling bad about that decision to turn off life support, and it seems to help. Take care and try to hang in there!

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my husband of 15 1/2 years on 04/18/08. It was sudden. I took him to the doctor and then to the hospital on Mon and I lost him on Fri. It has been hard making it so far. I also never thought about preparing myself for this. For the first few nights I kept seeing him in the hospital bed all swollen and not looking like himself. Tubes and all. I printed a good picture of him and placed it next to the bed so I could see that picture before I closed my eyes at night. I guess it has helped because I don't have that horrible picture in my mind as a go to sleep. I still feel like my husband will come walking in the door any minute. Try the picture beside the bed and maybe it will help you. Good luck and I hope it gets better real soon.

That had to be so hard for you. I am sorry for your loss of your husband. Although my
husband who was 61 and had health problems, he had open heart surgery for the second time in 17 yrs May 6. He had ups and downs, was in CCICU and regular hospital for 14 days. When I brought him home he was weak but happy to be home. He wanted to stay up and watch tv so I took my medicine and went to bed. Woke up at 1:30am and found him lying on the floor. Couldnt wake him up and called 911. They tried to revive him, but
he was too far gone. He died on the way to the hospital. I have a hard time understanding why he went thru two weeks of
struggle, and feel like he should have made
it for a while longer. This unexpected loss
is so hard. And being the caretaker for him in ways, is worse, because I lost my husband, best friend, and the one I have worried over and took care of for a long time. Just keep telling myself, I am not in control of this. God is in control. Jimmy was tired and hurt a lot and I did all I could do for so long.
I am sorry for talking too much. It just starts coming out and hopefully someone here needs to hear that we are not alone.
Take care

My husband died so suddenly on 23rd June 2008 the funeral was on on friday 4th July. I had a dream about him last night, that someone had rubbed his back and he was alive again, I was so happy in my dream, when I awoke I turned to his side of the bed only to find it empty and I have not been able to stop crying all day. We were together for 32 years he is 53. We had never been apart in all time except for when we had our children and I had a brief stay in hospital, but we would still see each other. This is the longest time I have been with out him. I dont want to live any more with out him.

I had a number of nightmares after Cliff died. Some were reliving the last awful moments when he died in my arms. Some were dreams where he was leaving me because he didn't love me (which wasn't true). These pass. Eventually I started to have small good dreams about him, where he was smiling or kissing me or just being there with me. The nightmares are very common; it takes a while before you can sort out the trauma of the loss and it's like your subconscious trying to work it all out. Mine were horrible, absolutely gut-wrenching, which made me not want to sleep some nights. But as I say, eventually they did pass. My older son still suffers from nightmares about his dad - both the kids were right there when it all happened. They are easing, but it's tough. I like the picture idea - maybe that would help. Hope you find peace and comfort soon. Hugs.

I can say at the beginning of grief I had many sleepless nights and dreams. The first year of grieving was such in a fog I can not really put into the words what I felt. Keep trying to take one step at a time.
You may want to change your routine before you go to bed. A nice cup of hot tea. I had to change the furniture around in order for the sleepless nights to go away.

I still feel guilt and go through many sleepless nights wondering if I did the right thing asking her to leave after I caught her and arrested her, she was cheating on me. We were married 39 years but knew eachother since elementary school.3 1/2 years ago, on my birthday i went home and found her dead in the bedroom. I dont know what else to say except i'm still having a hard time forgiving her for what shes done