Oh Cottage, I so do believe they are happy, pain free and experiencing the most wonderful feelings possible. And I do believe their spirit is with us, I know he is in my heart and always will be. Hugs to all, Michele

They are at peace and watching over us. Crying is so necessary on this grieving journey. It is part of the healing process. Hang in there!! Hugs. Sue

KK . . in my belief Spirit feels no human emotion, except what we may call peace and love. Our departed loved ones live on in Spirit, which is pure unadulterated peace. (My opinion only . . and I guess none of us we really know til we are on the other side) My beliefs make me feel better in any event.

As for the tears, I'm not a crier either, so I totally get what you are saying about finding the tears coming from no where alarming. When my waves come, I'm equally alarmed and try to find a solution asap. LOL I've learned to let them be without question. I do believe they are healing and cathartic in helping release pent-up emotion. They play a very important role in grief and healing beyond grief.

You are grieving my friend. And that's okay. Let the tears flow when they come, without question. This doesn't make you any weaker, they serve to make you stronger!

Hugs, D

yes, they are at peace, pain free and watching over us. There have been so many situations where I felt his presence in helping me through... Tears are healing and help us move through the tough times. Usually in the support group I attend, the tears come so easily. My heart still aches for his presence.

The reason I went to a medium was to be at peace that my hubby was happy. I was very skeptical, but I truly believe based on all the things she said that I was really talking to my husband. He told me he is happy & peaceful. Even dancing Loves to see me smile and laugh. Proud of me that I am being strong and being a great mother. Wants me to be happy and lead a fulfilled life. I am choosing to believe because it give me a sense of peace. If none of its true, well then I won't know until I am dead anyway.

There is no sadness, no pain, no tears in heaven.
I had a very vivid dream about my mom after she passed many years ago. In my dream she was young, and she looked so pretty and so happy. I begged her to come back, and she said, "oh, no, I don't want to, it's too perfect here".

You're very early in your journey, Kkg. You're allowed to cry and question. It takes some time, so much time.

Hugs,
Janie

I hope that my husband is at peace where he is...in fact, that has been a major concern since he passed away...Tom had a lot of problems, and I hope they have been resolved wherever he is..at the same time, I feel him with me all the time. I think he is still looking out for us.

I believe that the person we lost is now whole in a way we can't be in this physical realm of life. The weakness we have here are transformed to tools in the future and we are at peace and contentment with the knowledge that love lasts forever and in the blink of an eye we will be together.

My wife had told me this a long time ago, I was reminded of it when it was posted some months back.

"In the bottom of an old pond lived some grubs who could not understand why none of their group ever came back after crawling up the stems of the lilies to the top of the water. They promised each other that the next time one who was called to make the upward climb would return and tell what happened to him. Soon one of them felt an urgent impulse to seek the surface; he rested himself on the top of a lily pad and went through a glorious transformation which made him a dragonfly with beautiful wings. In vain he tried to keep his promise. Flying back and forth over the pond, he peered down at his friends below. Then he realized that even if they could see him they would not recognize such a radiant creature as one of their number."

Eric, I like that story. Reminded me of when my husband and I had our last conversation together. I asked him to come back and tell me what it is like. He responded "I will, if I am allowed".
The story gets it right, maybe they are around, but we do not recognize them.
God bless our wonderful spouses. Let us live the life that they will be proud off.
For all of us left with our young kids, let us be self motivated to move forward for their sake and ours.

I feel some do, but I really hope they are busy doing something wonderful. My husband had enough of pain and suffering when he was here, I wouldn't want him to have anymore, not because of me. The hope that he is doing all the good things he wanted that illness took away is a comfort to me.

I agree with so many, that you just don't want your loved one to have
any more pain. Larry endured more pain than a person should have to over the years.

But I just miss him so very much & just want to love him.