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Anger: Your Strongest Emotion
Day 66
"BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger" (Ephesians 4:26 NASB).
The Bible instructs you to be angry! Anger by itself is not a sin, and it is one of the most common emotions associated with grief.
"I went through that shock and denial period for about three months," says Dora after the death of her daughter. "Then suddenly, as the shock wore off and the reality set in--anger. Intense anger. Just wanting to wail, to scream from the depths. There's no way I could express as much anger as I was feeling."
You need to release your anger in a way that is productive for healing and not harmful to others around you. To release your anger does not mean to lash out, to throw a fit, or to lose control of it; releasing your anger involves the open and honest expression of your emotions in a way that is physically, mentally, and emotionally freeing. You can do this by expressing your anger to God in prayer (don't hold back!). You can release your anger in the presence of a person who will listen quietly and neither judge nor offer advice. Another healthy way to release anger is to write down every angry thought that comes to mind until you cannot think of another angry sentence to write. Some people find that expressing their anger out loud, and loudly, in a private place is helpful.
The fact that you should "not let the sun go down on your anger" means you should deal with it when it is present. Don't go to sleep and forget it, only to have it come back in greater strength later.
Holy Spirit, grant me the freedom and opportunity to release my anger in a way that helps, not hurts. Amen.
Day 66
"BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger" (Ephesians 4:26 NASB).
The Bible instructs you to be angry! Anger by itself is not a sin, and it is one of the most common emotions associated with grief.
"I went through that shock and denial period for about three months," says Dora after the death of her daughter. "Then suddenly, as the shock wore off and the reality set in--anger. Intense anger. Just wanting to wail, to scream from the depths. There's no way I could express as much anger as I was feeling."
You need to release your anger in a way that is productive for healing and not harmful to others around you. To release your anger does not mean to lash out, to throw a fit, or to lose control of it; releasing your anger involves the open and honest expression of your emotions in a way that is physically, mentally, and emotionally freeing. You can do this by expressing your anger to God in prayer (don't hold back!). You can release your anger in the presence of a person who will listen quietly and neither judge nor offer advice. Another healthy way to release anger is to write down every angry thought that comes to mind until you cannot think of another angry sentence to write. Some people find that expressing their anger out loud, and loudly, in a private place is helpful.
The fact that you should "not let the sun go down on your anger" means you should deal with it when it is present. Don't go to sleep and forget it, only to have it come back in greater strength later.
Holy Spirit, grant me the freedom and opportunity to release my anger in a way that helps, not hurts. Amen.
Read your post and thought I'm not angry, finally, an emotion I am not feeling through all this. But, yes, guess, I am angry.
Not at my husband, he didn't want to die, but,
I am angry at God, for taking him so soon.
When J.R., my husband of 25 years, was dealing with a heart attack that damaged 65 percent of his heart -- along with -- mantle cell lymphoma; the last thing I said to him was ~~ "If Jesus comes to take you by the hand, you go." J.R. looked at me and said "really?".. He died a few hours later. Oh, how much I miss him - but wouldn't question Jesus about taking him home; it comforts me to know he is in Heaven, where we will meet again one day. Nancee
But got a call for starting back to work part time nearby - need to get my health card as we will be serving hot dogs at the counter....