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sarah26 02/01/2017

hey everyone,hope your all good despite the struggles so for me its been okay for the last day after all the breakdowns have been struggling with and I can say people here are great and comforting,I could never ask for another group and was just thinking it could have been more better if we met in person,the thing is ever since my binni died,I have been thinking a lot about death and afterlife,like will I see him when I die?do we meet our loved one,although am a very strong believer but the bible doesn't state anywhere that we will meet them,I would really like to know your opinions,I do believe I will meet him when I die and I have read about people who have NDE stating that they either went to heaven or hell but the bible says when you die,you wait in you grave for the day of judgement so you can't go either hell or heaven without being judged how is it? and those who say they see their loved one who have died or receive signs(I did when some few days after he passed,felt his smell)how is that when the bible tells us that when we die we know nothing that everything we felt vanishes,am just curious anyone explain please?

Sherlane 02/01/2017

Lost my dear husband, x-masDay, 2015. Cry day & night, & it's 13 months. Married at 16, & he 20. Rooms are empty. I do believe we meet again. As so many have seen loved ones already passed just before they die. Also, I had telepathic communications, sightings, once called my name, after he passed, for 6 months. I was AWAKE every time, but trying to go to sleep. And I read AFTER this, not before, that it happens between 2-5a.m. usually, when it is the lowest moisture out, & dark.It was ALWAYS around 3-4a.m. One long conversation, while he hovered over me lasted from 2a.m. til 3:30a.m. , although I never knew ONE word that went back & forth between us. Telepathy!! I have never hallucinated in my life, on all the bibles in the world & in front of GOD, I swear this.I know it was Mike, there is no other explanation.But I also worried, as I have read it means they have not passed further& are stuck close to the earth plane , & we need to let them move on.So, I cried & asked him to move on ( though I sure didn't want to not see him always)! I have had no more visions, etc. from him since June or July, 2016. He had a NDE himself once & didn't tell me for 10 yrs. as he was afraid no one would believe him/ think he was lying. But he did die, saw kids from school, one Indian, & people he didn't know all standing in a room. There were doors to the left & right & ahead. He heard a male voice tell him it was not his time yet ( he was 40). But he told me he also had to pick the RIGHT door to go back. He felt the left one would be gone forever, so he turned around & took the door he came in on.When he woke, the nurse said( who was sitting, knitting by his bed) " you should not be here)!" He was never a reader, but I have been an avid one all my life. So I told him I had several books on this, & that is what they tell. He also had a very hellish experience. BUT he had NEVER heard of this in his life, is why he finally told me. I think we all go somewhere, we are probably judged every day here, so god knows where u are going right away, except I have read we need to learn more to move farther& better ourselves. God bless & help u with this, as I know the suffering, & can't move on myself from this horror! ❤️❤️

Sherlane 02/01/2017

That should say " when the moisture is the densest!" During the night. Hugs to you also.

Shrn 02/01/2017

Everyone has their personal beliefs on dying and afterlife. I would suggest that you talk to a clergy according to your faith and keep in mind that we don't understand a great deal about it-that's why it is called faith. Sharon

cgriff4ever 02/01/2017

Faith is just that.. sometimes, believing in someone/something we cant see, hear, smell or feel. Do we go to bed at night, thinking how we might not wake up the next day, "No, we go to bed with the hope and ....huh hum.. faith in knowing we will wake up. Faith is personal, and is not always easy to explain. All that you experience, is real, and not something you should dismay, just know your sweet soulmate is there with you in your heart, and in spirit, or so thats what I truly believe. Much love and hugs carla

charmaine 02/02/2017

I have the same sentiment regarding this matter.I read that when a person dies , everything wil be vanish however if its true why the departed comes back to visut their love ones after ? My husband passed away last year Aug but until now its been very hard to move on. A lot of question still in my mind & regrets somehow.

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