Great thought....really does not seem possible right now but nice to hope for. Thank you for sharing.

There will be a day that you will be tired of grieving, or just want to start living again. It will happen. Me personally, it didn't mean I cast out my love for my husband, but just want to start living again. Hugs to you.

Bandi,
Well the one year anniversary was today. It was another lifetime ago. Last year we were just trying to make her comfortable while her body gave out.

I had been reduced to only working half days for six months, and zero days for that last month. I was her primary caregiver, she depended on me for everything.

Now I have been back to working full days for this whole year and I have navigated thru this grieving process and realized that I am the same guy that I was, only with a different focus now.

Life Is a gift. I believe that the grieving process helps us to adapt to our changed life circumstance to allow us to life as fully as we can.

Bob

Bob,

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.

As always, your uplifting message is full of grace and dignity. I hope that when I reach the one year mark, I will be able to show that same grace and dignity to others.

Thanks again for being so very kind.

Part of the clearing of our Florida home has been going through old papers. I was amazed to find that even if the first few days I had managed to get all the bills paid on time and handle all the normal day-to-day stuff in the midst of the worst nightmare of my life. I was still in such shock that I don't even remember handling it all, but somehow I did.

It was a reminder that we are stronger than we think we are, and a reminder for me of how far I have come and how much I can actually do. I needed the reminder this week - it has been an emotionally tough time - but knowing I survived it all back then helps me remember I CAN get through my current crisis.

It won't seem like you can make, but you can. Never give up. If I could, I think just anybody could. Have confidence in yourself, and remember you were loved and admired for a reason - those reasons are still within you.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I believe all of you when you say the time will come, but it is hard to see that from where I am. The hollowness after doing well for a few hours, is devastating. Even when you do a good job at keeping it together, there is no reward because you don't have the person you were doing a good job for.

Martha's beautiful post is right. I remember finding it unbelievable I could ever get to the point of being happy again. I felt my life had ended the day he died, never to be meaningful again. I was (at 60 yrs old) prepared to wait until the Lord to call me home. Imagine my surprise when I learned to be happy living alone. Having my own interests and free to come and go as I please. Then, a few years later, I met a very handsome gentleman and fell in love. My life is completely happy and I recognize how truly blessed I am to have loved and be loved again. Keep the faith. Sharon