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A little set back

dl1959
dl1959
I manage some apartments and yesterday one of our elderly tenants called and asked if there was someone that I could send over to apartment because she wasn't feeling well.
Well it turned out she was having a heart attack. But while waiting for the ambulance and trying to keep her calm I just kept flashing back to Roby and the last day waiting for the ambulance.

So last night I couldn't sleep, felt like I did months ago.
One of my co-workers just lost a sister in law (that lived with them) to cancer a few weeks ago, he also said he felt like it set him back a little.

But good news is that our tenant is doing better and said if it wasn't for us calling the ambulance and taking care of her she probably wouldn't be here.
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
Oh Diane, these things do set us back. It was a brave thing you did for your tenant and she literally owes you her life for your quick actions. I don't know your beliefs, but to me your husband is looking down smiling and saying, "that's my wife. Isn't she great?" Sharon
mel40
mel40
Sharon, that's sweet! And I think there will always be memories or reminders that bring back the pain and difficulty of losing our spouses.
I hope you are feeling better today.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
I glad it turned out well for the tenant but it must have been hard for you!
gerald222
gerald222
I think when certain events parallel to close to our spouses passing they do trigger setbacks. I suspect thats a normal part of the grief process. A big hug to you for being there for your tenant. God Bless.
Gerald
kelleysgirl
kelleysgirl
What a blessing you were able to help your tenant. We never know when the difficult lessons we've been through will allow us to help another. It can be emotionally difficult for us because it sends us back to a time that was hard for us, but it does get easier with time. Blessings always.
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