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Often if I was up late working, I would lose track of the time. My husband would come out and tell me it was time for bed. Sometimes, if I do not at least TRY to lay down my midnight... the volume of the bedroom television will go all the way up for a couple of minutes... then back down... then up again. It will keep repeating this until I go to bed. On more than one occasion, I have walked in and the volume bar that pops up when you are physically adjusting the volume is actually on the screen and I will watch it go down. I pretty much leave the tv on in the bedroom all of the time.
I was making trim for my son's house and he picked me up some more boards and dropped them off before he went to work one afternoon then left to do some other work at the house he had bought and was remodeling. My friend was here and I commented to her that I had forgotten to tell my son that I was out of the 150 grit sandpaper sheets for the palm sander, and since I did not feel like making a trip to town I was going to have to wait until the next day to start on the trim. I went back in the house and went into my room to grab something and there was a pack of the sandpaper lying on my pillow. Nobody had been in the house since I had made the comment... my son had not gone in at all.. the sandpaper had not been there when I had gotten out of bed.
My phone goes "wonky". It will start playing music all by itself and the volume goes up. At first, I thought something was wrong with my phone... but the songs that play are ones that have meaning to the two of us. One day, it even started playing a song that was not even in my music library on the phone... it had been in my husband's phone. It was one of his favorite songs. When it began playing on my phone, I ran outside and cried. My friend was here and came out after me to ask what was wrong. I explained it to her, and when we went back inside and looked at my phone the song actually was in the library, but I had NOT downloaded it.
When I set my music to play on my phone, it goes thru the songs alphabetically. but lately, it will play certain songs (like our song) several times before moving on. One day, it reached a song that was a bit too emotional for me (a favorite of Shane's that was played at his service)... I hit the button to skip to the next song, sat the phone down and walked away... the next song played for a few seconds and the phone stopped playing and it went back to the song I had tried to skip. Again, I walked over, changed it, walked away and it went back to the song... at that point I gave up and decided I was supposed to listen to it. I had company here who witnessed this event as well.
More another time... this post is long... sorry!
I was making trim for my son's house and he picked me up some more boards and dropped them off before he went to work one afternoon then left to do some other work at the house he had bought and was remodeling. My friend was here and I commented to her that I had forgotten to tell my son that I was out of the 150 grit sandpaper sheets for the palm sander, and since I did not feel like making a trip to town I was going to have to wait until the next day to start on the trim. I went back in the house and went into my room to grab something and there was a pack of the sandpaper lying on my pillow. Nobody had been in the house since I had made the comment... my son had not gone in at all.. the sandpaper had not been there when I had gotten out of bed.
My phone goes "wonky". It will start playing music all by itself and the volume goes up. At first, I thought something was wrong with my phone... but the songs that play are ones that have meaning to the two of us. One day, it even started playing a song that was not even in my music library on the phone... it had been in my husband's phone. It was one of his favorite songs. When it began playing on my phone, I ran outside and cried. My friend was here and came out after me to ask what was wrong. I explained it to her, and when we went back inside and looked at my phone the song actually was in the library, but I had NOT downloaded it.
When I set my music to play on my phone, it goes thru the songs alphabetically. but lately, it will play certain songs (like our song) several times before moving on. One day, it reached a song that was a bit too emotional for me (a favorite of Shane's that was played at his service)... I hit the button to skip to the next song, sat the phone down and walked away... the next song played for a few seconds and the phone stopped playing and it went back to the song I had tried to skip. Again, I walked over, changed it, walked away and it went back to the song... at that point I gave up and decided I was supposed to listen to it. I had company here who witnessed this event as well.
More another time... this post is long... sorry!
My phone did something 'funny' a couple of times...One night I was saying out loud, 'I wish you could materialize in front of my face'...not 5 minutes later, my phone rang..it was my mom, who had dialed me by mistake. When I ended the call, my husband's picture popped up...these signs that we get are all miracles, and proof that we will see them again.
For those who haven't had signs, or are not aware of any yet, be patient. They will come, or you will begin to recognize ones that are already coming. It may be something small, that you are not sure whether to consider a sign or not... most likely it is one. Shane has came to me in my sleep only twice so far... both times fairly recently. And the first time... he basically scolded me. He told me that he can't visit if I don't sleep. So, I always hope for sleep, but it is difficult to come by. Sometimes our own emotional state seems to be a barrier for the signs or visits... hugs... Amy
I don't know scientifically what happens when someone dies. But I do know that for me I have comfort in my beliefs that I will be with them again and part of them still is with me.