Carol-Ann, I'm at the 3 year mark and I can personally tell you, it a very winding road, this grief thing. I'm so sorry that you lost your future with Skip.

It's all so darned unfair. Keep the wonderful memories that the two of you shared very close inside your mind. When you feel like falling apart, you will have these memories to comfort you.

We're all here for each other and the love and warmth that you will receive from people who has shared this journey will keep you well.

Warmly,
Roz

Hello Carol-Ann and welcome to this group. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I also lost my husband of 22 years (two months ago) from some sort of "cardiac event" as they say. The shock is indescribable when they are there, life is normal...and then they are gone. Some say we probably have PTSD from this.

So I am sort of new to this WW group too, and I can say truthfully - I know what you are feeling, I really do. All of the stuff you hear is sadly true. Take one hour/one day at a time. Time does help although we hate this time when our legs are shaky and we can't concentrate, can't read, can't watch TV, can't do anything but wonder about this awful, awful thing that came into our lives.

In the beginning I could read books about being widowed. Somehow it helped to read others' stories and how they carried on. It might help you...or not. I talk, talk, talk on the phone to friends who are kind enough to listen and care enough to call. I know I'm a pain sometimes, but the true friends will listen.

And reading this site on DS is a great help. You can come here any time of the day or night and read old and new posts. Have you spoken to a grief counselor? Sometimes hospice will send someone to speak to you, even though your Skip was never on hospice; my husband wasn't either, but a great lady spoke to me twice. There are also grief support groups where you can share and learn. Try to get out of the house and not isolate yourself. I struggle with this all the time.

Hang in there, that's what I can tell you. Sending hugs...

MysticDay

Thank you for caring I just don;t know how to go on without my Skip

Take it one breath at a time. I am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my husband four weeks ago. I wish I could say it gets easier, but I, too, am at the beginning. Just try to breath. The rest will come.

Sorry for your loss Carol-Ann, I lost my Wife ten weeks ago and she was only 56 years old and it was sudden. I think I'm still in shock and I don't want to believe it happened, there are days that I'm angry and bitter at who or what I don't know.

Somehow all of us here must go on and try too live because I'm sure that's what our loved one's would want us to do. I get it that you hate life right now, I have said that to myself everyday since this happened to her.

I hope you find peace and happiness down the road. Take care of yourself.

Robert

I am truly sorry for your loss, Carol-Ann.

I am just approaching the 8 month anniversary of the loss
of my wife. We were together for 30+ years. She passed
saddening of a heart attack at the age of 53 while I was
at work. I know the expected pain you are suffering.

The first month was shock and then reality hit and they
were meshed together for several months. Reality still
hits hard at times but now it is just some sort of numbness
as I rise each day.

I have learned the only way I can make it through the day
is to take it one minute at a time and then one hour at a
time. At night, I light candles sitting near some enlarged
photos of her. I spend some time talking to her but I also
spend some time writing in journals as I think about
experiences we had together. Doing that has allowed me
to recall many things we did together ( big things and
small things ) and some had been forgotten. As I write, I
found it lose track of time and it is soon bedtime and I
get another day behind me. The pages of the journals
are stained with a lot of tears but that's OK. The journals
are only for me anyway.

There are a lot of people in DSWW that are suffering as
well and many will be here to help you.

You are in my thoughts, Carol-Ann.

Darrell from Texas

so sorry for your loss. We all lost someone here and it hurts. I glad you found this group, I don't know if i would have made it where i am today without reading others comments and pain. Knowing that others are going through what I was helped. just letting me know i was normal and i wasn't ready to just move on (as many dumb outsiders try to tell you). Some move quicker than others but some are very slow and guess what its ok. At this point of our lives whatever we do is ok and at what speed we travel its ok too. hugs Arlene

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too am at the beginning of this journey and feeling as lost as you are. I don't have any words of advice for you at this moment, because I don't know how to cope myself. However, please know that you're not alone. That others are here and we all know how you feel. We understand your pain. We will do this together. Hugs to you sweet lady.

Thank you everyone for all of your kind words. I think about the future - In December we were going to be married I have my wedding dress and veil hanging in my closet I try to pull myself together but it just seems to get harder not easier. What does a girl do with herself to try to go on. You are all so thoughtful and helpful thank you from the bottom of my heart I am so glad I have found you all thanks Carol-Ann

I am so sorry for your loss. Please try to take care of yourself. That's important. take each step cautiously and do what ever it is you feel you need to at any given time. I lost my husband to a sudden cardiac event which is different than a heart attack but the shock is horrible. My husband went to work that day. We talked very briefly and 3 hours later he was gone. At the age of 44. The hurt we feel is real. You are not alone. All of us here will be here day or night.

Hugs

Lisa

Carol-Ann, sorry for your loss. In a sense, you will never really lose him as he will always be part of your memory. So knowing this will hopefully comfort you a bit. However, every bit of memory is sharp and painful at the moment, and you must give time to adjust to it. Like other says take it day by day, hour by hour.

Here is one article that'll hopefully help:
http://www.dailystrength.org/people/5057601/journal/14208611

Sorry for your loss.my husband was 58. He layer down to take a nap. And passed away in his sleep. That was April 30 2016. I can not tell you it gets better. I can only say I now how you feel.

Welcome to this forum. Like you, my husband died suddenly while in the hospital and never came home. This website was so good for me...I could post any time, day or night, or read the other posts. There was comfort in knowing that others shared my experience. My heart goes out to you...I know what you are going through. Hang ih there!

Carol-Ann, There will be so very many emotions passing through you. it will be like a roller coaster ride, up and down. No warnings, no hints of what is coming. Sad, Happy (guilt for the moments you do find a smile) DS has prepared me for situations I have had to deal with and some that I did not know were coming. To read all of the others experiences will help guide you through this. I found myself on this website at 2am and others were here for me. As most say " Be kind to yourself" Blessing and strength is what I send to you. warmly, Nancy