It's been just over a month for me. Your right reading the post and knowing someone "gets it" is comforting

Thanks for checking in hfire. I know it is difficult to believe, but a lot of us do care for you and everyone else here that is suffering right along everyone else. In your case, some here know first hand how difficult it is to grieve while raising children. And others like me can only imagine the difficulties and hurdles that must be overcome. In my life, I have a lot of freedom to make choices regarding what I'm up to doing -- or not. But with kids, you just have to -- no choice because you are responsible for those lives. So a high five to all you grieving parents out there. And to all the readers out there, I for one love to read how you are doing. Honestly, it helps me get to my tomorrow and the tomorrows after that. Because of all of you, I know that not a one of us here is ever truly alone, day or night. And so Hfire, I cherish your "Hello All." ~~~ Scottie

Hey my friend,
I agree with you. It does still feel unnatural to continue without my Lyn who went home last August. And you are definitely right you will see your wife again as will all of us see those who went home at their time. Don't know if I should or not but I have come to depend upon the feedback and discussions that take place here and draw strength from it. I wrote in my first post how much I appreciated folks taking that leap of faith and putting their feelings and emotions out there basically in front of a bunch of strangers not knowing what they may get back. Everyone so far has been extremely respectful and compassionate in their responses. My prayer is that we can all find our balance some day and peace to go with it. Take care.
Peace, Tim

I am glad to hear from you too hfire. I agree with you that it feels odd to go about the business of life without one's mate by your side. Please give updates when you can- your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.

I also check in nearly everyday, not only to keep up on everyone's journey but to also draw strength from others life experiences in their dealings with grief.
I am at 13 months and I post every so often to not only get out my feelings but to try and help the new souls who are just starting this awful chapter in their lives. I know how scared and alone I was when I joined this group, desperately searching for some semblance of sanity because I thought I was losing mine.
I feel obligated to try and help those who are in my boat if I can as those who have come before me have immensely helped me. Keep fighting the good fight and peace to you all. ~Pete

As everyone has found out, on their own, life does go on. The clock continues to tick, the wants and needs of not only ourselves but of others goes on.

I would have thought that EVERYTHING STOPPED the day Morey died! At times, I would have preferred it! I wished that EVERYTHING would just stop. Isn't the world hurting as I'm hurting? Nope, it all just keeps going!

Time passes, the fissures in our hearts are healing, the tears and sadness seems to be relegated to certain triggers or times of the day and [thank goodness] they don't last as long as they used to.

I can smile and laugh and not feel guilty for doing so. I can look at a picture of Morey and not break into a sobbing mess that wants to be swallowed up by the floor!

Each day that passes [and sometimes they pass at lightening speed], I find myself able to think more clearly.

I still can't read a book or magazine.....for some reason the written word has become impossible for me to focus on. And, I was an avid reader.

I'll give this time......Because, if nothing else, grieving the loss of my mate has taught me to be more patient and kind with self!!!!!

Roz