It's been 3 weeks tonight since my love left. I am really struggling

It is difficult to see the light at the end of this tunnel, I know we are all struggling with our losses. Nothing can make us stop missing them and nothing ever will until we join them again. This life is such a short time compared to eternity, this life will pass, eternity is forever. God does exist and I have total confidence in Him that He will keep His promise to those who believe. Rev. 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.

The 6th month mark was very difficult for me. The loneliness and sadness built up for a week to reach a boiling point. Hope you find peace on this day.

Hey John,
It has been right at ten months now. I still struggle with all you wrote.
I wasn't there when Linda passed into eternity. I don't believe she woke up to know what was going on. I thought she was asleep when I found her.
But I do carry a large guilt sack on my back for it.
But He is there, it is there and they are there waiting for us all when our race is over. What keeps me going is knowing once we get there. nothing like this will ever happen again for eternity.

Take care.
Peace, Tim

I do believe there are all of those things you listed at the end of your note. Your wife is still with you, she never left you. All you have to do is believe, and know that jesus died for you, and it's now all your choice of how you view your life, from here on out. We are glad you are our friend, and you have us to vent with, talk to, and cry out to. We were all where you are, and it does get some better, it just takes time. Try to be gentle on yourself. Much love and big hugs

Joe...I'm with Sienna on this one...our time om this earth is "like the blink of an eye" compared to the eternity that awaits us, where we will be rejoined with our Beloved...I am sure witness to the doubt and fear of the early months...and it's easy to be mad at God in that time, but it's to be expected (God's got big shoulders, believe me, He understands)...but when you get past that part, you will begin to believe that you will be with your girl again...you are on your way to KNOWING it, when you can start feeling like a whole human being again, knowing she awaits you.
Trust God, it'll happen!

Heartbroken,

I lost my beautiful wife almost a year ago to cancer. I understand some of your pain of loss, grief and mourning. I haven't moved many of my wife's possessions either. I did make somewhat of a shrine to her with many of her cherished items. I haven't touched her clothes and left many items in place. It's all part of the process. Most people are very ignorant to widows and widowers and comments be very cruel. Just remember that grief is process and not an event. Go at your own pace in your mourning. It's your Grieving not anyone else's.

As much as I have struggled with God over the past year I do believe in God and heaven and look forward to the day when I can join my wife again.

God Bless

Joe; My husband passed on 6/14/16 it will be one year in nine days. Passed in his sleep I found him.
We were married for 50 years on my birthday. (September). He was kind of a skeptic about the afterlife. So we worked out a code I said if you go first I want not just red roses, but yellow too on my birthday/anniversary and it has to come from one of our daughters maybe in a dream they could tell me they had. I woke up that morning of my birthday/Ann. and laying there said this is your chance to prove to me there is an afterlife. That afternoon I was in my front yard fixing a sprinkler head I had mutilated with my riding lawn mower.
My daughter pulled up and you guessed it she got with a dozen each of red and yellow roses. She said she was in Costco and was getting ready to leave when she saw the roses and said I should get those for Mom. The kicker is she said she had red and white in the basket and was leaving for the check out, when for some reason she turned around and saw the yellow roses and just went back and got those instead of the white. Needless to say we both had a good cry.
Sorry Joe didn't mean to be so long winded but I think it helps to share when we have signs. I and my daughters and now granddaughter just four days ago. I'll share that another time.
Your Girl was fortunate to have had you also in her life..
I never thought I would get to a place where I could make peace with losing Dennis, but for some reason lately I have. I know he isn't suffering and is at peace and wouldn't want me to go on grieving for ever. I will always miss him but I know someday I'll Transition as we all will and I'll see him again.
Take care of yourself Joe. Happy Trails and Hugs....Gail