I am so sorry. You are numb right now, but it does get better with time. Be easy on yourself and hang on to family and friends. Wishing you some peace, Lori

Hello,

So sorry for your loss. The time and pain and sadness is just so new right now, you will in time be able to process and handle all the emotions your will go through, just let them happen you must go through them, don't fight it, it will only be worse for you. That is my experience and others here, I never thought I would get through this, but I am with all the support and friendship here, the folks here are so caring and supportive and know what each of us is going through, even though each journey is a bit different there are many similar stories and emotions that are the same, the journey we are on will have many peaks and valleys, compare it to a roller coaster ride would best describe this awful journey. You will one day be able to function, live again but it will take time and it will be one of the hardest fights in yur life to get to that place. I wish you Peace and Love friend.
Laurie

:( surreal times ~ lost my hubby of 33 yrs suddenly almost 3 years ago ~ found these DVD's most helpful STILL ... God hold you
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It's been less than 4 weeks for me and I am living in a similar dream, still think he will come through the door and will give mne a hug.
I cry every day, even when I drive. I can't shake it off but one day it will get better, I hope. Be strong and hugs to you.

Dear Zonker7,
I too am very very sorry. I was there too, just wanting to wake up from the awful dream. Back then I thought I was going crazy and I did not want to confide in my daughter (married with a child) nor my sister-in-law because I did not want to worry them. I thought I was alone and going crazy. I only found out about this group a few weeks ago - in December it will be 3 years that my love has died - it has only been a few weeks for me to realize that I was/am not crazy. We are just grieving. All to say, even though you are physically alone in your four walls, know that we are many like you, trying to go on without our soulmate. I send you a virtual hug. You are not alone. Driftersoul.

Wake up and find this nightmare isn't true. Yes, we do want that. Just get through the days or minutes sometimes and be kind to yourself. Do what you need whether its a nap or a walk. And know that you're not walking alone. Sharon

I'm so sorry for your loss.
We are all here for the same reason, we have all lost the love of our life.

The people here are supportive and kind, and we understand what you're going through.
Feel free to cry and vent to us.
It's been 10 weeks since my husband passed, some days I'm okay and some days I'm a sobbing mess.

Just remember to take care of yourself, make sure you eat, drink water, try to get a good night's sleep. If you can't do these things, see your doctor.
We're here for you.

Hugs,
Janie

7 weeks for me too... Still on the autopilot to keep things going... And waiting to wake up from this terrible dream...

The only advice would be to join a local grief support group that gives you a motivation to get out of the house and some relief at least for a while

This is the way most of us do feel in the beginning. Its normal. Its surreal, you can't focus, or think clearly. My worse times are in the car and in the shower, maybe because we are completely alone.
It does seem pointless, and no reason to even be, but this will pass it just takes lots of time to get there.

No, we are not going to wake up from this nightmare but it will get easier as time goes on. Just take one day at a time, get through it and do it again the next day.
We all feel your pain and have our own too.
Hugs and better days,
JoAnn

I am so sorry for your loss. Like others said be kind to yourself. It has been four years for me and it does get better with time. I know the first year of my loss, I thought if I did everything right, whoever or whatever would realize how much I loved my husband and give him back to me. Crazy thinking but you have the right to think crazy. Just take one day at a time and be patient with yourself. It's grief and its normal. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

This is probably the hardest thing you will ever face. No you will not wake up from this awful dream and find things back to normal. I understand the zoning out and the not being able to focus on anything. I am 19 days into this nightmare and I've been through the whole spectrum of feelings or lack of. I cry all the time and then feel nothing at all. I keep thinking he will walk through the door any minute, but cannot believe that I will never see him again. That is the worst part. I am no longer his wife, but I will always feel that I am. I hope you can start to feel some peace soon and find a way to take care of yourself as it's easy when you really don't care about anything to get sick. I don't care about anything either but my sweet dog who my husband loved dearly. She gets me through each day. I hope you will come to DS often for support. It has been a place I actually look forward to because I know others understand how I am feeling.

I can't believe how glad I am I found you all. Thank you all for reaching out here.

Yes I feel like I'm losing my mind. This can't be my life. I'm crying as I type this but I know it's okay. You know. :/

I am so sorry for your loss. Everything does seem surreal where you are right now. It does get better. For now, be gentle with yourself, take baby steps, one day at a time. Feel what you need to feel when you need to; and come here as often as you want. We're all here for you. Blessings always. sharon

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 months ago. Grief is such a roller coaster this is a wonderful site where we all understand what you are going through. One day at a time and know everything you are feeling is normal for you. God Bless. Julie

I too am so sorry for your loss Zonker. It's a terrible road we all now have to walk but thanks to the people here on this site we don't have to walk it alone. The second year of my wife's passing was this past Friday. 2 years. I don't know where the time went. You will find during this time and for the first year things like you mentioned will be the norm, if there is such a thing. Sometimes better sometimes worse. It's the first year fog. Now that I've been through the second year I'm not so sure it's much better. It's a roller coaster ride. Just take care of yourself, that's your job now. Come here often as you need to, we are here for you. Jeff