It's just over 3 months since I lost my husband and I guess I'm still at the afraid of everything stage. Still trying to find my way. Trying to figure out what kind of life there is for me alone. Not sure what to do or what I even would want to do but maybe in time that will become clearer. Congratulations on getting to the place you are at now. I know it's been a hard road.

Not so much new things ... but things I've always wanted to do but never had the time. Mainly volunteering now...when not self pity~ing; Stay healthy Kym and enjoy for me... you must be young and/or young at heart ! (my husband LOVED the outdoors and we lived it up:)

Yes, a totally changed perspective. At first, it was along the lines of the worst has already happened. My internal dialogue went along the lines of... well even if I fail abysmally, the worse has already happened. I became fearless, when you are stripped of everything, I think the risk taking becomes way easier.
As time progressed, I became aware of how much I could do if I pushed out those boundaries. I ended up embracing my grandfather's philosophy of dancing on the edge of the volcano. Basically, even though I am now far more aware of the fragility of our lives, I have chosen to try to enjoy my life for as long as I have it. I still have horrible days, but now more often than not, I have good days.
Most importantly, I have really come to like the person I have become and appreciate who she is. Not perfect, but strong, and more of a risk taker than I ever thought I was capable of.

Soalone - I lost my husband just a month ago so have the same feelings you do. Each day when the tears pass, I wonder what God has planned for me with the years I have left on this earth.

One morning I realized that no one will ever love me unconditionally again the way my husband did. My parents had that love, but they are also gone. It is an empty feeling when you lose your best friend.

I am so happy for those of you who have found strength in trying new things and venturing past what we all thought were our comfortable boundaries.

How long does it take?

I'm glad that you are trying new things. It gives me hope. Enjoy your new adventures.

We all struggle with the changes that come with this loss and I am glad you are finding some that you find pleasure in. I think it depends on the lifestyle you had that leads the future. I can't imagine doing what you have planned even at a younger age. But I did find pleasure in books, quiet walks and my furry dog that dried my tears. With time I also made friends with other widows and enjoyed time sharing our experience with life and grief. Sharon

My life has definitely changed since my husband passed away. I have a new job, new friends, and am going out to socialize more. I have had moments of joy and happiness, but am still struggling. I miss my husband a lot, and feel lonely without him. I admire you Kym for your go for it attitude, and your positive outlook on life. You inspire me! Yes....life is now different. Some of the changes can be what some consider the "silver lining". I am still evolving into the new me and am still a work in progress!

I went back to school and felt the need to correct some of the choices I made with the first four years of college. I thought about some kind of outdoor activities but being as I am a lazy girl and don't really like to be outside, I will leave that to those that enjoy fresh air. So for now I embrace law school and the satisfaction in doing what I should have done in the first place.

Maggie

happy for you, I am still dealing with a lot at this time, but my goal is to get a job and go back to school part time. I am so looking forward to that. I have put my career on hold for my husband's. We decided that I was the one to take care of the kids. Now the kids are excited for me to do my degree. Cant wait.

Congratulations Kymberly! We are all proud of you. I am no longer at an age where I can do the strenuous types of activities that you are discovering, but I have learned that I can do many more things than I at first thought. Things my husband always did. And as someone else said, I have re-discovered ME. I think as wives we tend to center our world around our husbands and sort of put ourselves on the back burner so to speak. Now it is time to take care of ourselves, do things that we like to do, and generally enjoy life OUR way. Many hugs from AZ.

Wow, thanks for posting. That's inspirational. I never thought about life without my husband. I'm still trying to find the land of Igiveashit.
Everybody's journey is different. I like that you're out there making the best of things.
You give me hope.
Trici

OMG! From inspiration to laughter...from Kym to Trici.......I'm sitting at my desk at work completely cracking-up!

The "land" that Trici speaks of may not exist for some and maybe too overwhelmingly real for others. It sure made me smile.

Thanks Trici for my laugh for the day!

Kym, I'm not even close to feeling that adventurous right now. Sometimes just making it to the market is a true adventure for me!!!! A full shelf of toilet paper makes me happy!!! Keep up the high spirits and the great attitude!

Roz